Mommy issues

Is mommy issues a real thing? Growing up especially after 10 y/o, my mom became an alcoholic putting her guy friends before me and left majority of my childhood to drink! I remember one day I was super sick and she didn’t even check on me and left to go drink at bars. I don’t recall any good memories w her 😔 I wish I had a close mom/daughter relationship with her like I see many women do but sadly I don’t. I’m 27 now and still resent her because why wasn’t I good enough for her? She chose men, drugs, drinking over me 🥺 til this day she’s an alcoholic and hasn’t changed a bit.

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I have my two girls and can’t dare to imagine to leave them and treat em how my mom treated me

Yep, it's trauma and trauma is a very real thing 🫶🏻 my MIL always favored her boys and treated her daughter like shit her whole life and my SIL will never have a close healthy relationship with her, but she's so much better to her babies than she ever received 🫶🏻

I think yes. Maybe not down to the exact definition online (though it's loosely defined) but yes. I definitely feel that I have mommy issues and daddy issues myself.

From your post, yes it's a real thing since you're clearly still healing. Therapy helps, journaling at least My mom was crazy but I had to finally realize that she was hating HERSELF and it wasn't because I was a problem. She couldn't love herself so how could she love a piece of her (a baby)? Anyway, I forgave her and my dad for other things. I released that energy. I wished her healing and moved on with my life. I couldn't let that feeling of being worthless live in me anymore, that is not your battle. Your feelings are valid.

@J.S. Jaees Was thinking about journaling since it’s a very sensitive topic for me. After all these years I thought I would be healed but it still hurts but you’re right it’s a her problem and don’t love herself. She even told me she never wanted a third girl (which was me) I def need therapy and want to forgive her but it’s hard

@Kylee good for her for breaking generational trauma 🫶🏼

I have mommy and daddy issues. My mom and I have always had a turbulent relationship and now that I’m an adult with my own children it’s still rocky. I chose to forgive her for my childhood which was HORRIBLE, but I forgave her for me. It wasn’t for her by any means. I always felt my mom hated me and regretted me, which I still do sometimes I won’t lie. She treats my siblings way differently than she treats me still to this day. I use to always wonder if she blames me for the lack of success she felt when she was younger, but I don’t ask her about it now because I’ve moved forward from that. I know that I will never treat my kids like I was treated. I never want them to question my love for them. If you wanna talk shoot me a dm. 🫶🏾❤️

Yes it’s real ❤️❤️