Would this bother you?

My stepdad has seen my baby a total of 3x. He got offended cus I said I want to hold off on him using the grandfather title when I was pregnant since he kept mentioning it so much .so he distanced himself for months. Now he’s came around and I feel like he’s gone to the other extreme again. The first time when he saw her he was tipsy w my mom and when they were leaving he said wait let me give her a kiss. I didn’t get to see where he kissed her but I was like maybe he did that because he was tipsy… then second time I heard him kiss her like twice and when I stepped out he took a picture kissing her on her hair. Third time he came up with my sister to help her up with stuff which I didn’t know he was coming up so caught me off guard. He was like let me give her a kiss and gave her a kiss on the forehead then left. I don’t think he’s a perv but I find it annoying how he’s going abt it I’ve mostly been home so haven’t really dealt with ppl. But I would think he would ask first before doing all that. I’m not sure how to tell him to stop. I was thinking next time just saying oh I don’t want to make u feel bad but I don’t feel comfortable with people kissing her just yet especially on the face. Or something like that I just hate he made it awkward all over again by doing too much 🤦‍♀️. He’s also sometimes paranoid abt germs sometimes so I’m surprised he’s not thinking abt what he’s doing..

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I think he’s trying to think about it so he’s avoiding the face face. Forehead is a bit close. But hair or feet maybe to avoid face and hands. But as you said I’d just say I prefer no one kisses on her outside of her feet until she’s a bit older but hold that with everyone

You wrote this same post already 😬 just have a 1 on 1 convo with him about why so that he can understand I think that’s the most respectful way of going about it I think someone wrote on original post how older gen consider it normal whereas we are more concious of everything

It wouldn’t bother me solely because the boundary was never set

@Daija I’m just annoyed that he would do something that requires me to have another uncomfortable conversation. But I guess that’s part of being a parent 🤦‍♀️

Yea stuff is always going to come up as a parent where you’ll have to advocate and sometimes seem like the bad guy. I wouldn’t sweat it

Was he like a dad to you? If he raised you, I can easily imagine him being really offended you said he can't be "grandad"

Just tell him straight up that you don't want him, kissing her on her face or her hand because her immune system is very very very weak. Any bacteria can be picked up and it be deadly and you don't want no one kissing on her face whatsoever. I did not let anyone sit on my baby face. No one was allowed to kiss my baby face because I'll be damned if somebody gives my baby herpes or a bacterial infection anything like that you have to put boundaries and protect your child

It was very, very uncomfortable for me to tell my mother, but I still had to tell her the dad side of the family understood they have no problem with it but again my mother is toxic and she wasn't or still isn't around the way. I thought she would be whenever I had Kids

It’s YOUR child. You get to make 100% of the decisions revolving around protecting your child for whatever reason. Yes, you can say that to him nicely & if he gets offended that’s his problem not yours. Your responsibility is owed to your child not to anymore else family or not. 🤍🙏

I voted yes but I meant no 🥲 I don’t understand why he can’t be grandpa?? My fiancés dad remarried 5 years ago so he doesn’t even say that it’s his step mom but she is our son’s grandma. He’s just being loving my kissing her on the forehead, if it makes you that uncomfortable just nicely say “hey I don’t let anyone kiss her on her face until she’s a bit older”

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