My husband didn’t consult me about a getaway?

I’m just so fed up… I am never happy with my husband anymore. He is such a self absorbed human being I’ve made posts about how little he helps with our 11 month old & is hardly a present or good dad to him and on top of that barely gets time to do any of the house work either because he’s rarely at home either due to work or gym or attending to his single, dependent mother I’m beyond exhausted Now recently his best friend booked for them to go to a yoga retreat for 2 nights. My husband didn’t even consult me or ask if it’s ok he goes. I’m baffled as to why he even thinks it’s ok to just up and leave for a stupid yoga retreat when he has no interest or passion for yoga and meditation and sleeps in and gets good stretches of sleep at night. I’m pissed off at his friend for having no sense to understand that we have a small child and just book on my husbands behalf and even more pissed at my husband for agreeing and going along with it When I tell ask what he thinks he’s doing just going off without consulting me, he says “ what do you want me to do? It’s already booked, don’t be upset” Now he’s gone and I don’t get a single day / night off

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Am sorry. That's really bad behaviour. Only way to reset him to factory settings is by doing the same. When he returns book yourself a night out for whatever. He gets back from work and you hand over the kid and off you go. Or if you're not confident to leave bub just tell him soon it's gonna be your turn. Not acceptable. Set your boundaries.

I would get up and go away, too. It's the lack of consideration

The only relationships that work are ones that are balanced in every aspect. You should be entitled to have some time out so why don’t you start booking stuff without consulting him and see how he takes that? Bring it up and then say he’s gotta look after your kid. You need time to yourself so take it 🤷‍♀️ if he throws a fit over it or disagrees, then lay down the terms of a relationship that you desire. One where not all the responsibility is on you. See how he likes it after a while. Some lessons are best taught not spoken, some people need to be shown that you aren’t going to be walked all over. If he then wants to discuss you consulting him when you want to go out, create a plan that is balanced and if he strays from that plan then leave. I’d have left already but I assume right now you’re not in that position that you can or you’re not sure about leaving? Only because you didn’t write about it. I also have a low tolerance level when it comes to how people act towards me

Book you a two day stay at a hotel. Time for you to rest, relax, and reset. He will be ok

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