Different pet boundary expectations

I'd love to get some outside input about an impasse my husband and I often find ourselves at. We have an indoor cat who is also my ESA- she's a sweet girl who will get into usual cat shinanagins (trying to claw furniture, jumping on surfaces, playing with hoodie strings, etc). When it comes to correcting the naughty behaviors, I understanding these as normal animal behaviors, will calmly get the cat to stop undesired behavior. My husband, on the otherhand, will 'TSSSCHH!!!' at the cat in a way that startles me and seems angry and every once in a while call her stupid when she keeps on doing the naughty behavior. He's has a lot more strict boundaries with the cat than I agree with (never let her 'knead', not have her go into our room, never let her lay on blankets, do anything to stop her from clawing). I'll then get defensive for the cat and my husband says it seems I care more about the cat than him. I don't want this to build up to an issue in our relationship but it's been a recurring argument. Any thoughts or advice?

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Did your husband grow up with dogs by any chance?

@Jessica He had cats though they stayed outside for the most part. His family got a dog the last couple years he was living at home

@Emily the reason I ask is I grew up with dogs and I was a lot like him when we first had cats. I didn't understand how free and independent they were, and how they would only live you if they wanted to. It also frustrated me that I couldn't control their behaviour in the same way you can with a dog. Now I work really hard to win their love and understand they will do whatever they want. I'm still firm about them not getting on the kitchen worktops and clap to scare them out the kitchen, but I think that's a fair boundary.

@Jessica Thanks Jessica! Im glad I could hear from someone who can see it from my husband's perspective as well