Mil feeding baby

My LO is 3 months and my mother in law has already put cream in their mouth as well as custard etc. I keep telling her to stop but she says not to listen to midwifes saying to wait until 6months. Not that that's the only issue, it's also the fact I want his first foods to be nutritionally beneficial. Doesn't help he is teething and can't hold his teething toy 100% yet so he is sucking his thumb/hand. They also keep pulling his hand out which is making him hysterical. They say it's because he will get into a habit. I tell them leave him, it's ok. If it's a habit so be it, but in my eyes I feel he will out grow it once he can't use him hands better to hold things. Just needed to rant but no idea how else to set my boundary. Seems they don't listen.

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Stop contact if they’re not respecting boundaries.

I second what @Ell said. Get on the same page with your partner and talk about how you’re feeling (which is 10000% valid btw.)

Hands in the mouth at this age is developmentally appropriate and completely normal. If she can't respect your boundaries on feeding then she is dangerous to be around your child. I can imagine she would be feeding baby inappropriate foods such as whole grapes when time comes. Discuss how she makes you feel with your partner and bring evidence backed research with you. Hopefully he can warn her that unless she falls in line then she will not have contact with bub.

If they aren't listening to you his mother then stop seeing them. Simple as that, you need to put your foot down. I would have kicked off with her giving cream and custard. I had to and I still do 3.5yrs later

Unless you rely on them to babysit, I would stop contact until they improve their actions. This is all not only disrespectful but super dangerous.

oh heckkkk no. they wouldn’t be seeing my baby if they didn’t respect my boundaries. giving sugar to a 3 month old is insane! i’d be livid. also the hands in the mouth is so normal and actually something that is supposed to happen at that age, they’re exploring their mouth and also using their mouth to investigate objects etc. it won’t create a bad habit because it literally goes away.. that only lasted for a month for my baby

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