Anybody can’t orgasm? difficulty orgasming? Tips?
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Are you overthinking in the moment?
The book Come As You Are is a great play to start. Gives a framework for getting to know your own “accelerator” and “brakes” along with a lot of other interesting information
@Mariah I find that i come more often when im quieter/get quieter when im getting closer. Maybe that’s weird too. Crap 😂 but then im loud when i do come…
@Natalie probably 😭 I previously dated someone that would also get annoyed when I didn’t come…I think that was messed up. And part of it is also maybe about control. Like lettting someone make me lose control like that + getting more addicted to them & fearing the worst. 🥴
@Dea thank you I will check this out!!
Not weird, everyone’s different!
It is tough to lose control but that's the one time you want to. Sounds like a good guy who wouldn't do that and it's just about getting calmer.
Can you orgasm at all? If it’s just with this guy, definitely a mental block ! Have a shot of tequila before you start , will help you relax 😂 If it’s can’t orgasm at all, seek medical help. Could be pelvic floor related . Either way, I hope you get there 😅
@Gilly i can orgasm… I said that in the post. I can on my own, and I have with this guy several times. It’s just not consistent even though it feels like I am really about to every time I probably only do like 50% of the time. It’s just weird. I don’t know why it’s so great, & I’m getting so close, but then nothing. And the other 50% of the time that I do orgasm & come it usually takes a while. He’s patient but after a while I get even more in my head/nervous about it🫠
Ah. Definitely the last part will affect you. Try not to stress or worry about it , easier said than done.
Something that really helps me as weird as it may sound is, make noise. Lean into moaning and really just let loose and let it out. Over do it, moan as if you’re already there-sorta like fake it til you make it idea-I have found I tend to orgasm easier if I start making noise. Helps you let loose and relax and for me I find moaning a turn on so it literally get myself more excited by making noise.