Mother’s Day dilemma

So this will be my first Mother’s Day at the end of the month (lo is 10 weeks). I’m so excited to spend it with baby and partner doing something nice for the day. I am assuming my MIL (who I have a tumultuous relationship with due to a number of things including descending on me in hospital an hour after baby was born, telling me I’m not doing things the way she would and making jabs at me through my baby) will want to see the baby on Mother’s Day..even though she is grandmother. My partner is supportive of me not wanting to go up to his mums/my MIL but I feel like I’m putting him in an awkward position. I really don’t want to spend the day with anyone other than my new little family. Am I wrong to want this special day to myself and do what I want? Any advice welcome 🙏🏻

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Can you go and see your mum and take the baby? Send your partner to see his mum 😃

@Penny good idea! My family (incl mum live in N Ireland so haven’t got that excuse). I definitely have encouraged my partner to see him mum but I’m happy to stay at home and do something afterwards. Not sure if that will ruffle feathers but sick of thinking about others!

I think this is reasonable. Can you make plans to go on a small vacation for mothers day away from your MIL so she can't ask to see you guys? My baby is 13 weeks and I'm also excited for my first mother's day! Fortunately my MIL lives in another state.

If she lives close you should be able to do what you want to do and pop in and see her however she needs to appreciate that things have changed.

Unpopular opinion, your MIL is extended family, not direct family. Your family is your man and baby. Boundaries are important and you need to fight for them. Stop people pleasing when you know what will make you happy❤️

So as we’re nearing the time I would just stay silent and not reach out to her atm and then if she reaches out a week or 2 before you can say “oh sorry we’ve made plans!” Sort of thing. You could always send your partner round first thing so she’s at least seen her child 😅

Nope this Mother’s Day is all about me! 😂

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