Upset with my husband/ feeling unsupported

I’m 38weeks+ 6 today and I just can’t take it anymore. I’ve been feeling unsupported for majority of my pregnancy, and extremely lonely ( I’m tired of crying) he is always too busy/distracted for me. We had a really bad fight tonight.. I started having contractions last night and could barely sleep, but I still had a few of baby’s things to sort out ( he hasn’t helped with the nursery at all). I spend the whole day cleaning the nursery and putting stuff away, before doing that I cleaned the kitchen. Went downstairs to make myself a snack and the kitchen was dirty, I cleaned it again. Later in the evening once I had finished baby’s room I went down to sort out some dinner for myself ( he had already eaten) and the kitchen was a mess. Sink full of dishes, dirty island, dirty dinning table, sofas were a mess. I spoke to him and told him that it isn’t fair me always having to clean up, I’m exhausted and can barely walk ( baby puts loads of pressure) . He told me the he was tired and would do it later, but I needed to use the kitchen. So I cleaned up and got really emotional and was crying whilst doing it ( my feet, back, hips were hurting not to mention that I was starving). He got all upset, we ended up arguing really bad and I feel terrible. I’m so fed up with this. He hasn’t said a word to me since, left me to cry on my own. I’m really tired but not sure if I should go to bed, I don’t want to make things worse 💔- I can’t stop crying, I feel really down and lonely. My mum is on holiday and I don’t want to call my siblings 😢

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He's being a right asshole to you! You're building a human, his child! He should be doing way more to help you be comfortable

@Lyss thank you

@Dominique he says that I don’t appreciate everything that he is doing.. I just want this all to stop, I’m miserable don’t even recognise myself anymore

Tsk, @Lyss is right, you're being emotionally manipulated. What things does he do you should allegedly be appreciative for? Exist?

It sounds like he's missing a lot of Emotional, Mental & Physical support.. he isn't providing you with any of that. I'd write him a detailed letter how he's not there emotionally, mentally or physically for instance you couldn't cook when needed while extremely pregnant. That behavior is disgusting. Period. I'm 9 years in with my husband & he still cleans, cooks, I'm a princess.

Call your siblings, don’t do this alone. Sorry you’re going through this right now. You need the support.

I have no advice but just wanted to say I felt exactly the same during my pregnancy. We moved house when i was 6/7months pregnant and I spent my days at work and evenings were spent building furniture, washing baby clothes, cleaning the house. It’s very exhausting, sorry you are going through this. I got to a stage where I stopped cleaning up after him and I just thought of myself and baby. Relax as much as you can and enjoy the last few days of your pregnancy 🥰

@Lauren thank you, I will try doing that. I’ve being doing everything myself the entire pregnancy, the only times I don’t are when my mum visits or when I was admitted into hospital for a week . You’re really blessed to have a husband like yours

@Sophie did it get any better? Thank you xx

He's being a fucking lazy arsehole, and I've had told him exactly that, the prick!

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