Same baby name

Bless you 😢😢 I would just approach them and tell them you’re using the same name, I wouldn’t change the name because of this if it’s something you both love. Try not to get to stressed about it x

@Georgia I was wondering if I should tell them now hey we are going to use the same name or just wait until baby is here and announce it as planned and explained to them that we already planned to use this name ?

Approach the situation however you and your partner feel is best. But I absolutely wouldn’t change your mind on the name just because of this x

If you tell them then I guess they could try to put you off of it. They’ll also be in their bubble right now, I’d probably just leave it and just call your child it. I couldn’t imagine changing my babies name two weeks prior to her birth after being so set on it. It’s just one of those things isn’t it xx

I don't think I could still use the name being completely honest if surname is the same too and you are close to them. It's really unfortunate but I feel like yours would be known as the second 'name'. What's the name? Is there anything similar you can think of?

My honest gut feeling would be to change the name. You will fall in love with a new name, and it gives your baby a whole other identity than being known in the family as the second child with that name. I know it feels horrible and severely important right now, but you will learn to love a new name and that name will feel right after some time 🩷

@Lucie it’s just so hard I am 38 weeks and could give birth any moment now I can’t even think of anything else I have been using that name with my husband even before I knew the gender . It’s just so hard 😞

@Ruth it’s really hard , my 2 year toddler has been using the name too since we told her about it so it’s really hard . I guess I could try to find something similar but I can’t think of any as of now

@Mollie yes I have been using that name before I even the knew gender even my 2 year old toddler calls the baby by that name too and she would always say no to any other names that we suggested 😂 it’s like we were really set as family for this name

I feel this! My friend is pregnant and we’ve realised she’s calling her little girl the same name as I’m calling mine!!!

@Kiya I think if it was a friend I would go for it and definitely wouldn’t hesitate for me the girls will be close cousins with the same surnames which makes it’s so hard and wrong 😭

i think if you’ve been set on it and your toddler is calling them by the name you’ve chosen, then to keep the name, but i wouldn’t wait until you have yours to announce because you could get some backstabbing talkers, you know? i actually think it would be better so the cousins not blindsided to send a message saying “hey, congratulations on your beautiful bundle! i just wanted to message so you didn’t feel blindsided when we have our baby, but when we chose our babies name months ago, we actually settled on the same one you’ve called yours, our toddler calls them by this name etc. it was honestly a complete coincidence but i just wanted you to be aware for when we announce the birth of ours and so you knew already that it was a name we were already settled on!” xx

@Ruth the name is Layla and they spelt it the same too

Personally, I’d have to change it. Yeah, I’d be jarred and gutted but honestly, there are millions upon millions of names in the world to have to have a name the same as a distant cousin. The same surname would seal the deal for me too. You can pick another, nicer, cuter, sweeter, more unique 💯 xx

I would change the name, as they’ll be at family gatherings together etc. For example, if you called out Layla both girls would turn around all the time. It’ll also seem like you copied them, even though you didn’t. I’ve been making sure to claim the names I’m thinking about well in advance to avoid this dilemma😣. What about the name Isla/Iyla/Lilah/Lila? There’s plenty of Layla’s now so this may actually be a blessing in disguise to name her something less common.💗

I think it’s such a shame to change it especially since your other child knows baby as it now. Maybe just have the conversation and you’ll feel better about it and know what to do. I literally wouldn’t be able to change it having being so in love with a baby name but that’s just me. (Completely opposite to everyone else clearly 🤣) I don’t think you have to change it if you don’t want to though. It’s just a mental coincidence xx

I wouldn’t change my mind on a name regardless, I’d let them know we had the name for months, I’d speak to them about it and let them know we wasn’t going the change the name - they then might even change the name xx

@Eve yeah I think I am gonna do that and say if I do find something in between now and birth that I like I might change it but can’t promise you anything. Tbh on my husband did a lot of them reuse the same names as they like to name their kids after aunties and uncles and grandparents etc so a lot of kids have the same exact names . It’s just the name I actually didn’t exist in the family until yesterday

@Mollie yes waiting on my husband to inform his cousin . Hope it won’t be a really negative response

update us, fingers crossed it goes okay! X

I was going to say that some families use the same names for all the men/boys. There are 3 peters in a family I know x

Layla is very similar to Layali . Even with the same meaning. You could change yours to that.. Im from the middle east and I personally know a lot of Laylas and Layalis and I could tell you Layali is more unique then layla. I feel like Layla is too common, thats my opinion tho and hope it helps.