Does your partner have to be told explicitly to put stuff away even if it's obvious?
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Haha my husband leaves his own stuff strewn around the house, absolutely zero chance of him putting something away, maybe 50% chance if I directly ask him 3 days in a row
(Sorry if you can see an image multiple time, my peanut crashed while I was making the post, lol)
@Lisa 😆
Oh my gosh, the stairs thing! My family has always done this but my partner thinks its ridiculous and NEVER takes anything up with him and instead proceeds to run up the stairs in darkness and moan at me when he falls over the stuff 🙈😵💫
The most aggravating one is , he puts dirty washing on TOP of the basket . Put it IN mate. So annoying x
Like Donna’s partner, I also have ADHD and find single and specific instructions, as well as repetition, to be more effective. There are thousands of adults living with undiagnosed neurodivergence which can make life more challenging for them and their families. I myself was only diagnosed at 24 and it was life-changing. Of course I’m not implying this is the case for your partner but it may be a slightly different perspective to consider. I’d recommend sitting down with him to talk about how this is making you feel and finding out why he struggles to keep up with his share of household responsibilities. Good luck 🤍
Mine has to be told but he is autistic so things like that aren't obvious to him, id be in my grave before he got the hint so I have to tell him otherwise it'll sit there forever
He’s proactive but it’s taken a long time to get there lol. After reading these comments I’ll never be ungrateful again dear lord 💀😂
My partner has ADHD and was diagnosed about 13 years into our relationship! Direct, concise instructions to your partner may feel like you’re being dictatorial, but hey in my experience, whatever gets things done, right? Good luck! ☺️
@Aggs thanks for this perspective, I just think mine has selective blindness 😅. Other than the stairs and not finding stuff that are right in front of him, he is doing fine lol. I just had this discussion with my friend ,her boyfriend is the same with the stairs hint, I guess this doesn't work with men
That’s such a bummer. I think women often grow up more aware and vigilant around household duties, it’s totally unfair. Definitely communicate and set some expectations though. He’s an adult too, and you need to be a team. Or maybe just shift the responsibilities to something else you would normally do so you can take care of this. I really hope it works out ☺️
Even when he's told, I'm still picking it up 😒
lol I have this problem oops
@Aggs to be fair there are some things I don't like to do and he does it no issue, no need to ask like the bins which I think it's universal for them for some reason🤷🏾♀️😅, putting fuel in the car, taking care of our oldest while I'm with our baby, he is a great dad🥰..... but I don't know what it is with those stairs and the laundry hamper 😆
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Seems like most men are like this 😂 sometimes my partner will put things away, sometimes he won’t or he forgets to.
You got me with the bins 🤣 I don’t go near them either
Most men secretly like being told what to do by women .. 😂😂so I think that's where it seems to originate.. or it could be just plain laziness 🤨
He’s like an extra child… when I’m stressed out about the housework he looks around and says ‘what needs doing’ like, sometimes I question myself is this guy blind???
Im gay. My partner is proactive, but i think this poll is for people with husbands..
We don’t do hints as my partner is oblivious to them all. His ADHD brain just doesn’t work in that way so it’s pointless. If I want something done, I just ask him to do it. As much as it can be tedious at times, it gets shit done and I get less frustrated with things not being done.