in March 2024 Babies 🇺🇸

Am I overstepping ?

Today is our little guys’s first birthday and I made a very special post for him on Instagram. My post contains various pictures with him and different people. I did not insert a picture of my son with my mother-in-law because I only have one that I took in secret. She does not like pictures being taken so that is why I chose to take it secretly. I had no specific intentions of leaving the only picture I have out of the post, but there were a lot of people that have helped us along the way that I did not insert. Anyways, my boyfriends stepdad decided to message him and tell him that there were no pictures of his mom in the post and that shes sad and she keeps re-watching the video. Now my boyfriend is stressed and worried about making sure we make a post to thank everyone. Well, I do want to thank everyone, today is not about anyone else. I’m very upset that he chose today & this very moment to express his opinions. I want to send a message to him directly basically saying today was not the day and today is supposed to be happy day for us and now my boyfriend’s mood has completely changed. To basically please not do that again in the future. Would that be overstepping? Should I not say anything? It just hurts my heart to see my boyfriend so stressed about something that he should not have to worry about today. I want to defend him.

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I would just message the mom and say sorry wasn't trying to leave you out and that your understanding was she didn't like her photos being taken. And then you can just redo the post. I know it's a bummer to lose the current comments, but it might be worth it. You could ask her if she has any photos you could add? But in the end you decide what to put and how to celebrate. You can always take it down and wait a day or so to post, too.

Also, I get her being sad. In the moments, she probably didn't want her photo taken, but she is now regretting not taking photos with her grandbaby. I also get you and your boyfriend feeling bummed and frustrated. It will all blow over. Can just take more photos and make more memories. Life is short. Enjoy each other and the time you have! ❤️

@Colleen the only issue I have with that is her husband text my boyfriend is private without her knowing so if I message her she will know he said something.

I do not do well with people who make things about themselves when it has nothing to do with them.

Also, grandpa shouldn't have done that i agree. People make mistakes. Things like that happen. As your son gets older I'm sure there will be more comments or things that happen. Lots of love does that.

I'd still message her letting her know. I don't do secrets well in family. It'll probably help the relationship overall.

Also grandma could make her own post too. Birthdays and kids growing bring emotions. I was a mess with my daughters birthday. My little family of 4 is 20 hours from family and it's so hard.

Hopefully you and boyfriend can just enjoy the rest of the birthday and get your mind off it! ❤️ Beautiful spring days. Playground is fun if you are looking for something.

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