Separation anxiety tips? Burn out tips?
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Maybe your husband can take him to a playground or fun places too?
Maybe just leave more often and he'll get used to it? And have your husband stop texting you crying updates.
Going through something very similar with my 12 month old.
@Hayley I’ve tried to tell him and even tried telling him hey maybe play or distract the baby? But sometimes it feels like talking to a brick wall, and he has a tendency to take everything super personally when I try to give any advice out of a place of caring and not judgement I try to make sure I word things kindly but he takes offense almost everytime
@Colleen yeah we usually go all together but I’ll try to have him take him for some 1 on 1 time or maybe even just walking separately so I can get some outdoor time too. Thank you!
I am going through something similar, also. You're not alone. I will say, like others, the more you leave him with husband and encourage husband to keep routine but have fun, the easier it will get. Though you mentioned your husband is more sensitive, do you feel like you're able to express your burnout to him? Because that might help, too, in regards to the messaging when you are away...If he understands you need the reset.
@Mollie it just feels like whenever I let him know I’m feeling burnt out he just says “same,” unfortunately. We don’t have family nearby us so we don’t have anyone to leave the baby with if we wanted to. It’s just been me with him 24/7 and my husband when he’s not at work. I know he’s stressed about everything as well it’s just a tough place mentally for both of us I think I’m sorry you’re in a similar situation, it truly sucks I hope it gets better for you soon
@Ellie I hope it gets better for you soon!❤️
What state are you in? If you're nearby maybe we can help give you and husband a break? Or maybe try on a Facebook moms group to date swap. Our closest family is 20 hours away and it is so hard!! So sorry.
It definitely is hard when you don't have any help, I relate. I hope you can find that * you * time that is able to be enjoyed sooner than later. It can be so hard on both parents, especially when we as mothers are still healing ourselves from pregnancy and birth, let alone this new role. Sending lots of warmth your way. My biggest advice is to keep communication strong with your partner, and if it feels like he isn't receptive...as hard as it is...express it. I try to always remind my partner we are our son's teachers, and when we sees us communicate strongly...He is learning to do the same.
I have found that once I’m gone my son does ok cause he can’t see me and gets busy doing things with dad. The more you leave your husband with the baby the more confidence he will gain to comfort him himself too. As long as you trust your husband as a safe person I’d just leave him to figure it out. He may do things differently than you and that’s ok! That’s something i remember from a parenting class we did that each partner will do things differently and to just encourage eachother 😁
So sorry! Probably will just have to keep gradually ripping the bandaid off, so to say? My daughter is also pretty attached, but I had doctor appointments, and eventually, she just gets distracted enough.