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Husband lied

I had a midwife appointment yesterday and have a sick toddler to handle by myself because her dad said he had work this Saturday. I couldn’t take my toddler to my appointment so I had to drop her with a friend to enable me attend my midwife appointment only for me to find out he actually went to play football and hang out with the team. I called and he didn’t know he picked and I heard everything in the background. Called back again and asked him where he was and he replied “I’m at work”. I felt so bad and heartbroken that he would lie to me about something like this and called him out on it then he tried twisting things saying he went to work earlier and then went to play football. I told him he was selfish for prioritizing hanging out with his football team over being there to support me with a difficult day and he said he knew I could handle it and it’s not like I had nowhere to leave our kid while I attend my appointment. I was so overwhelmed with emotions that it made me cry and I told him I’m done with trying to make him care. He said he’s sorry about it and I’m overreacting that he only lied because he knew I’ll react exactly like this if he came clean and he works everyday and only gets to rest and unwind on Saturday by playing football. At this point my mind is going places because if he was “working”, he wasn’t supposed to come home at all as it’s a 24 hour shift. So if he lied, where was he planning to spend the night? I asked him this and he said he would have come home after the football and told me his shift was cancelled. This whole thing is so messed up or am I overthinking and overreacting?

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Im sorry for how you’re feeling💗 You’re not overreacting at all. Your emotions are totally valid. I can completely see how betrayed and abandoned you must feel. I can understand he may also feel the need to unwind and have social interaction but that he feels he has to lie though is something different. You both have the responsibility, he can’t pick and choose and there has to be respect as parents present and be able to discuss this. Maybe you guys can come up with a compromise so both of you can have your needs met and lies don’t need to.

@Madeline Thank you for your kind words ❤️

You’re not overthinking or overreacting, your feelings are completely valid. The issue here isn’t just that he chose football over helping you; it’s that he deliberately lied about it. That breaks trust and shows a lack of consideration for what you were going through. Instead of acknowledging that you had a tough day and stepping up as a partner, he made excuses and tried to gaslight you into thinking your reaction was unreasonable. But feeling hurt when your partner lies to you, especially about something that directly affects you, is a natural response. Beyond the immediate situation, his response raises bigger concerns about respect, trust, and shared responsibilities. If he doesn’t see why what he did was wrong or makes you feel guilty for reacting, that’s something that needs to be addressed in your relationship. You deserve honesty and support, especially during a time as important as pregnancy.

Wow that’s not a partner. he wants all the perks of having a partner but none of the responsibilities of being a partner. Totally unacceptable

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