So upset

Flowers and a card is still appreciation. He still thought to get you something from your daughter! Some people just suck at gift giving, could you advise him of what kind of gifts you would want instead of leaving it down to him? I always give my partner 5 things I like and let him choose something from that x

My eldest is 3. I've never had a mother's day present from him

Have you told him he makes you feel this way?

At least he remembered and actually got you something from your daughter x

I’d be more than happy with flowers and a card! Sounds like you’re being a little ungrateful to be honest. Some people get nothing, be happy with what you have.

I got a card girl, that I bought with him.

I feel social media has ruined what is expected of Mother’s Day with extravagant gift buying. To me Mother’s Day is a card and flowers or some chocolate? That’s what we did as children and now being a mother it’s what I receive and what I would want to receive. The day is about me and my children I don’t want presents? That’s just my opinion I understand it won’t be everyone’s.

I had to take my 8 year old out to get my own card and she brought me a cuddly toy that she is now currently hugging! Oh did get me flowers. I dont really see anything wrong with what he’s done. We’ve been out for the day which was my suggestion. He’s in charge of Father’s Day.

@Chloe 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 💯

If it makes you feel any better I got fuck all… no card, no flowers no nothing and he’s currently playing his PlayStation with his friends. I went to Asda and spoiled myself on his card :) I treat me better than anyone ✌🏼

I would be happy, I didn’t even get happy Mother’s Day from mine

I understand the frustration but honestly I’d just be grateful for that, I had my baby 8 weeks ago and my partner didn’t get me anything. He said happy Mother’s Day but otherwise nothing. I know a card, flowers , chocolate etc is pretty cheap but I just thought it was thoughtful that he made me breakfast this morning 🤷🏻‍♀️

What do you expect. Flowers and a card seems sufficient x

How ungrateful! Some people would’ve got nothing, he still put in effort, just not enough for your liking.

Sounds rather ungrateful

I also got flowers and a card, and still felt special. My son is 5w old and my partner made the effort to get me something. It's the gesture that's important, not the actual gift.

Some people got nothing

Are we looking into social media too much? Shitty effort at least you have your little girl to spend a day with isn’t she enough? I feel like we are supposed to feel shit on Mother’s day because we look at social media? This Mother’s Day is hard for me as I’ve lost but I’ve always got my little girl please be grateful!

I think youre being incredibly ungrateful with what you got if im honest. My little boy's dad got me nothing.

I got a Beautiful bouquet of roses and a Lovely card from Daddy and baby, he woke up, took baby with him to go and purchase these, I was really grateful, that to me is a big effort considering some men these days don't even bother looking after their own kids 🤷🏾‍♀️ so yeah I think you should thank your partner and show him some love today he also deserves it 😁

I had flowers & a card. The most special thing was that this year he could hold them & give them to me. That’s all I need tbh xx

Baby, you are ungrateful lol. Some don’t get anything

Some mums would’ve got nothing.. really just a thought that counts 🙂

You got flowers and a card?! Girllll you are so lucky!!! 😅 I have spent Mother’s Day from 9am in the hospital with my baby on our own as he’s suffering from RSV, due to be here a few more days, I’d be grateful for just a hug if I’m honest…

I feel the same Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day and Father’s Day why is it just one day? You shouldn’t need a special day to show how much you love someone.

@Chloe THIS.

Sorry to sound rude but I have seen a few posts today "I only got a card and flowers" etc what are we expecting???? I didn't get a card but I did choose my own gift whilst he was choosing his mum's gift 🤣 Some men are just not organised, doesn't mean they don't appreciate you, maybe they show it in a different way.

@Liv please message me if you need a chat!! I’m sorry you’re on your own. Happy mamas day x

Is this a joke…

Honestly, this might be an unpopular opinion, but I personally think it’s okay to want more. Considering it’s Mother’s Day, we want to feel special and have our efforts recognised, and every mum perceives this differently. Maybe a nice day out, like a picnic or a homemade lunch, could make the day feel more meaningful (just throwing some ideas out there). I get it - maybe this makes me seem ungrateful too lol but I think communicating what you’d like for future Mother’s Days could help ensure you’re both on the same page 🤷🏻‍♀️

My son did me some things at nursery and they mean so much more cause they were from him I got a bunch of flowers and a lovely mug and a lovely lie in with coffee and breakfast in bed and a few drinks later on with my partner and our son I have had a lovely day and feel very loved and blessed I think you sound very ungrateful

I don’t care about presents - atleast a card and something small like chocolates or flowers wouldn’t go a miss 🤣 I think it’s more the quality of time spent together/effort etc!

You have every right to feel the way you do, and this isn’t just about the flowers or the card, it’s about feeling valued and appreciated. When someone consistently puts in minimal effort, especially on meaningful occasions, it can feel like they don’t recognize all that you do. Mother’s Day, birthdays, and holidays are opportunities for a partner to express gratitude and appreciation, and when that effort is repeatedly lacking, it sends a message that can feel dismissive and its not wrong to have higher expectations. If this is an ongoing pattern, it might be worth having a deeper conversation with him about how his actions (or lack of effort) make you feel. Sometimes people don’t realize the emotional impact of their behavior, but your feelings are valid, and you shouldn’t have to settle for feeling unappreciated.

Thank you @Nars & @Andrea 🫶🏼

I’ll start by saying it’s NOTHING to do with being ungrateful or social media! Mother’s Day is a big deal to me & he knows that. I do absolutely everything for our daughter down to her being 3.5 & he has never even put her to bed once. He should show appreciation. You have no idea how much I love my girl & everything she gives me is SO special but when it’s half arsed & only because I reminded him it’s upsetting. I share my birthday with my girl (i love it) which means I put all I have into her having an amazing day, so Mother’s Day is now my day where I want to be treated & looked after. I didn’t get anything for my last 3 birthdays or Christmases & let it slide coz it’s Mother’s day that means most to me. It’s about showing the person you love some appreciation! A thoughtful picnic, a lie in or planning a lovely day would have been amazing but I had to get up, bath my girl, make her breakfast, get her ready & make my own plans for the day whilst he sat on his phone.

@Siobhan I didn’t get the mug, the lie in, the coffee, the breakfast in bed or the drinks! I got a few flowers and left to have a very normal day.

@Liv Sorry to hear your baby is poorly ☹️ Hope you get your cuddle soon

@Shannon He got the card because I told him to. Even then he didn’t want to get up and go but as I was getting my mum her card & flowers, he got mine. He watched my buy my mum presents over the past few weeks, remind him to sort something and get a big bunch of flowers but only got me the flowers he did because my 3 year old little girl told him he needed to get me flowers. That’s BARELY effort.

@Elena Single mums are amazing!

A card and flowers are lovely.. people don't need gifts for mother's day, that's what shops want you to think! Being able to spend it with your little girl, you're already lucky enough 💕

However if he isn't helping, you do everything all year and he makes little effort, then I think a conversation is needed. Not just about mothers day x

Your little girls sounds lovely and thoughtful, which is testament to your parenting, which is great. You’re entitled to feel the way you do but spin it on its head and look at the situation in a positive light, he could’ve not bothered at all, not even one thing, so just try to be happy you got something from your little one and be hopeful for next year. It’s one day lovely x

I completely disagree with ‘we should be grateful for so minimal’ the bar is so low for a lot of you women this is why men don’t bother they get away with it. Being a mum is one of the hardest jobs ever and yes they should get creative and show appreciation to us as mothers come on! it’s the only day mothers get to be celebrated why not put in some effort. The bar is so low clearly 😮‍💨 if your fella actually cared they would show you appreciation and you wouldn’t expect any less let’s be so real it’s not about the money it’s the effort and consideration 🥴 even print a picture of the kids stick some pasta and a hand print it doesn’t take much 🤣😂

@Rere it shouldn’t be the only day mothers get celebrated…your partner should be doing it daily!

@Shannon sorry that is an irrelevant generic line 🙄 this is one special day dedicated to mothers why not show some effort. Obviously if you are living with your spouse in so many ways you should be shown appreciation that’s without saying. But on Mother’s Day CELEBRATE me as a mum. It’s not hard we need to stop this be grateful for scraps narrative.

@Rere it’s not being grateful for scraps, it’s just not expecting something that really isn’t necessary if you’re in a loving, equal partnership that celebrate each other daily

@Shannon I don’t agree. She’s not expecting anything us mums never expect anything because we just give and give. Mother’s Day is to celebrate mums the effort is important to show us you appreciate us as mothers and our hard work. I know every single woman on here on Father’s Day makes effort on that day and does something sweet for them so I don’t believe we should be grateful for flowers and a card that is right at the entrance of every supermarket that is not effort 😅 but like I said it’s not about the money there is so many free things that can be done. How about we all make a list of what we would like to happen on Mother’s Day to put a smile on our faces from our partners to feel celebrated on our special day MOTHERS DAY 🤩

@Rere each to their own 😆😆😆