Who’s wrong here… I’m a stay at home mom to a toddler who requires a lot of attention and doesn’t let me get things done during the day. Then all night I work on my small business stuff to make extra money for us.

I feel I should add I do housework when I can throughout the day/evening. But it’s not enough to keep up with laundry

I mean, who is ever up to date with laundry? 🫠 But you are not wrong. He needs to help.

@Andrea like we’re at the point where we have nothing to wear or whatever do have is all in baskets 🙃 me and toddler went to visit family for a week and NOTHING was done when I got back like he moved a the baskets from one room to another and cleaned up nothing while I was gone 😬

Have you communicate that with him? You’re not wrong for wanting him to help out more though. I’m a stay at home mother to two kids (5 and 3 month old). It’s a never ending job to me. My husband doesn’t expect me to do everything. When I’m in need or want him to help, I just communicate that with him. My husband plays video games and scroll on YouTube also but I don’t get upset at him for it. I’ll tell/ask him if he can do xyz, so I can get xyz done. I was really burnt out yesterday or the day before and I communicated with my husband about my mental health. He appreciated that I communicated with him.

@s a r a 🥀 yes that’s why I’m so frustrating! I ask him to help out right now is my busy season with Easter coming. I’m so burnt out I communicate I need help and he either says okay then does nothing or gets upset with me and is like well I guess I’ll do everything then. As if I don’t work on something every hour of the day unless I’m sleeping 🙃

I’m not sure I think both. I’m a stay at home mom that also works from home And does classes and my husband works overnight and I manage to still get things done. My son is a huge handful but I still make time to get things done. My house is 9/10 clean. But you should definitely talk to him I get that he wants to wind down from work but after everything is done. Sometimes me and my husband work as a team if he’s not tired to get things done mostly me. He’s a cop and really needs sleep because he needs to be awake and alert for work so I don’t mind. Maybe try and work as a team to tackle it then me time for both. Then bed time yall spend time together before sleep

@Shynel and that’s you. If you’re fine doing everything that’s great for you! I just need a partner not an extra child🤷🏼‍♀️ mine doesn’t have a job like that, and he’s just lazy and wants everything done for him. I’ve been talking about help for so long it goes in one ear and out the other. I just feel myself distancing from him. Like if I’m going to feel like a single mom I may as well just be one is where I’m at right now 🙃 I also think part of my frustration is I worked nights as a nurse for over a year while he stayed home “job hunting” and I still did everything around the house (pre baby). So it’s like wtf you know 🙃

He’s a dick for that! SMH 🤦🏻‍♀️ I do just about everything in the house but my husband still helps out when I need his help. I’d stop doing anything of his until he get his act straight. It’s probably easier said than done but I hope he gets an eye opener that the household duty doesn’t only fall on you but him too as he lives there also.

@s a r a 🥀 I’m about to do that! I don’t mind as much when it’s not my busy season but Easter and Christmas are huge for me. I spend hours 8-1 or 2am working on orders then back up at 7am with the toddler. Like please just help me 😭🙃

He only works 30-40 hours a week, you’re working 24/7 he needs to help. If he refuses to help he can move out, there’d be less to clean then.

That’s why I said talk to him and do it as a team

@Victoria~ that’s really where I’m at 😭

@Shynel I know! I’ve tried and he doesn’t listen or he does for a day then back to nothing sadly

Housework should always be split. The ‘harder’ chores being swapped monthly also.