Did anyone regret having a second?

Hi Rachel. I have two kids one year apart. My daughter is 7 and my son is 6. Me and my husband had them back to back on purpose, we figured it would be a bit easier since they can play and entertain each other etc it was the best decision! They are besties and rarely fight and get along very very well. They both go to elementary school together and have been some cases where they needed a bit of defense (if a kid is mean) and they both always have each others back and protect each other very well. They are also at an age right now where they don’t need help for everything. For example my daughter showers herself, changes, brushes her hair teethI of course double check but she gets it right ;) lol I feel if we would have had two kids with a big age gap would not have been the exact same. We were even considering a third baby but I should have got pregnant before. We didn’t really think about it but if I have one now there will be 7ish age gap but if I want to we need to get pregnant now

I have a just turned 4 year old girl and an 8month old boy. I won’t lie, the sleepless nights after a 3.5 year break have been bloody hard. My partner works away a lot so I am their main parent most of the time and I have found it much harder than I predicted. Mum guilt is real as it’s hard to do things with my eldest when I’m so shattered and they both need me for different things. However, seeing how much they love each other is amazing and they will hopefully be friends for life 🤞🏻

Heya. We had our 2nd when our first child turned 3. And it worked out great as she was in preschool so I still had one-to-one time with the newborn. I didn’t find it hard as we got into a good routine. However my 2nd (son) was very different. Not sure if it’s the 2nd child syndrome 😂 but he was harder than our daughter. But again we had a good routine and we ensured we both had one to one time with our 3 year old and did her bedtime routine as usual etc and then attend to our son. I’m now expecting baby no3! And all my pregnancies have been awful and have been tougher each time. But for me it’s worth it and worked by having a very supportive and hands on husband. And this is our 3rd and final baby as we both always wanted three. But we have a bigger age gap between the kids now. I have no experience with shift work so I can’t comment on that. Only you and your husband know how you can make things work and if there are some changes to be made.

My daughter was a really easy going and happy child who was well behaved up until just after her second birthday. We got pregnant when everything was easy and then had to deal with an awkward toddler and a newborn at the same time (2 and a half years between them). She’s only just settling back down now a year later. I wish I’d left another year gap between them.

My daughter was so difficult as a baby. She is almost 4 now. She has a brother who is almost 2. And it is the BEST thing we gave her to have a sibling. I was scared too and we don't have any help as we are both from different countries living in UK with no family or close friends around. Pregnancy is not easy but it won't last forever, however when we are gone, they will be there for each other. We are now expecting the 3rd. Pregnancy is not easy but the 2 entertain each other so much, love to see them together. Just melts my heart.

I have one and I don't think I'll have the second one until I'm rich, just think about if u are good financially and some days u acne get nanny or house keeper, so u and partner can get relax time sometimes, Money is important. Second would be cute and nice, but for God's sake everything too expensive now ,even with one child 😢😢😢u don't have to do what everyone else is doing, build a life that makes u more happy 🤗

Have a 6 month old and almost 4 yr old , the first few months were so freakin hard not bc of the baby but bc of my toddler. So many emotions and struggles . Such a weird thing to mourn your toddler and the life y’all had before baby even tho toddler is there. Many tears and struggles but you learn to deal with the new dynamic. Overall I’m soooo grateful my daughter has a si long. That alone is worth all else. You won’t regret it

I think it depends on how you feel. If you crave another child I would do it bc you’ll regret it later. But if you are concerned about getting freedom then I probably wouldn’t recommend. I have two and their bond is so sweet and the fact that they have someone to be around besides me is great. But there are some crying and screaming and fighting too. I always wanted more kids so that’s the difference for me. I also told myself I have my 30s to my children, and once I’m 40 is when I get my time back a little more.

Not at all. It has been HARD, I won’t lie, but also SO rewarding.

I have a 9-year-old and a 4-year-old, after the first baby we said we were one and done. I seriously did not want to have another baby. And then one day I changed my mind and we had another baby. I don't regret it at all, I really feel like my second child completed the family. I don't think there's anything wrong with having one child if you want to stay on that route, but as far as regretting it absolutely not. And for what it's worth they always say things are a little bit easier with the second and I did find that to be true in my situation. I still think that it's crazy going through the whole process again, but you're just a little more equipped the second time. I will officially not be having any more children though.