I guess I don't need to eat
My least favorite part of motherhood is when everyone starts eating dinner without me because I have the newborn in my arms. No one (not even my own husband) offered to make me a plate. I guess I don't matter that much.
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Every time we sit down to eat, my 2 month old gets upset and either needs to eat or just demands to be held. I've had to get onto my husband about changing out holding her so I can eat too. When I'm at my in-laws, my MIL will either make sure I eat first or if I'm already tending to her, she'll eat so she can take her so I can eat. I haven't had meals with my parents yet.
That is shitty, and you need to talk to your husband about it. What worked for us is either having meals that are able to be eaten one handed (which maybe meant pre-cutting meat etc) and also sitting together for meals but alternating who gets to eat first each night. Though I will say that 90% of nights my husband would hold the babies so I could eat first, I would have been happy to do alternating nights though. I would suggest that he hasn’t even noticed.