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I would have a discussion with her about this and see how she feels. Does she get triggered by seeing your kids or kids/mommy videos? Tell her you understand how she could feel but what to understand more about how she does feel. Don't tiptoe around the matter just get a better understanding and also tell her how you feel that the friendship feels like a punishment now for you having kids. I remember feeling like this when I had 3 miscarriages and wanting nothing to do with other people pregnant or having kids. But until we reach a point of understanding and acceptance within ourselves we don't want anything to do with others. At least that's how I felt. So I get that it's hard but we also can't feel responsible for others feelings to an extent. i think you are feeling responsible for her feelings enough with understanding where she's coming from but need to express that to her to then have her understand where you're coming from. Just my 2 cents. ❤️
@Paola ive started to take it person when she’ll awknowledge other videos I send but she wont awknowledge if i sent mum ones (it’s not often) and it’s only mum ones like tidying up, how the mum does everything and feeling drained, suffering from postpartum anxiety etc. I’m sending these in relation to the negative being a mum brings like PPD, aniexty, burnout but she can’t be supportive to even heart react or whatever you know just point blank ignores
@Kalina I was thinking that but then I don’t want her to think I’m making it a big deal and rubbing it in I have kids and you don’t kinda thing. I’m not sure what’s triggering her. I’ve tried to keep it normal and still send pics/videos every now and again and she won’t react to them or reply. My girl just started walking yesterday so sent a video a she reacted but wants like OMG WELL DONE etc when usually she would voice a reaction back or say cute etc. I’ve asked her a lot to do things either together, with kids or when at nursery so I’d just have 1yr old and she’s ‘always busy’ but then wil post on socials being out with other people. She went for a birthday meal in Feb with a group of her girl pals but didn’t invite me. I totally get it because I’ve literally been there and been in her position so you’d think she’d vent to me. I try be positive and be like I’m literally living proof that even if you’ve been told you can’t have kids it CAN happen you just never know x
Probably better to keep away from her, it will benefit you and your kids , you don't need a negative energy and jealousy I had a friend 12 years older , she never had a relationship , she just was not interested in this, she studied all her life...and I talked a lot with her that is my dream to become a mum one day...she was supportive, but I was very handy to her and I think she was thinking like I will stay alone as I was not lucky with men... Then I met a guy, not ideal, with very hard situation...but I knew I could have a kids with him...BTW when she met him,I could see she had a feelings for him...but supported me although was involved too much in our relationship....then I fell pregnant and suddenly she realised she lost her life for study and she wished she could have a kids...Once when I was heavily pregnant she cried and said I will forget about her because now I have family...I did not want to do so obviously, but this woman did not give me a space with a newborn and she was making nasty comments
Like my partner will cause me problems and that he does not love me and our daughter...Once she said my place is a messy and is so easy to keep place clean...I could see she was bursting from jealousy and was too toxic for me
You need different people around you, who will understand you and be happy for your kids...many women without kids can't relate
I mature friend would understand, sounds like a real toxic person. Stay away at least for a while. This is not healthy for you or her. I had a similar experience with a friend which I decided not to hang out with because I felt she was resentful.