I'm so lucky my in laws are amazing it's been my side lol but my little one has cmpa so can't have dairy and we had a little won't hurt, build immunity to it, now and again can't hurt, your been dramatic he can't possibly get that poorly from dairy, it's not that bad it's just a little bit wind.(It's never been wind so no idea why they think that) Or the best is I don't believe he has it. People need educating on stuff now as they are so stuck in the past they don't understand and it annoys me so much. It's hard enough on the parents. It takes nothing to ask about it what they can do to help little one. X
@Mel I’m glad your husband is supportive I feel like that would make such a big difference as my husband should be able to calmly but firmly explain to her and put those boundaries in but in the past when he’s tried she shuts him down and he drops it. So mostly he just nods and stays quiet. He even said ok about the dairy thing and was trying to tell me we could just scrape the top off and give it to our LO. So then I was forced to say something which then escalated, and instead of backing me he told me I shouldn’t have said anything because she had cooked food for DS and he was going to say it next time he saw them. I explained this is nonnegotiable and we needed to nip it in the bud and be very clear but nope, I’m in the wrong apparently
@Lena it’s just the most frustrating thing isn’t it. Like I really don’t care what their opinion is it’s not up for discussion end of. And exactly that, it’s hard enough for the parents without other people trying to stick their nose in. And it’s really not that difficult to just not add dairy to food, it’s a very simple thing to do so why oh why must people push back
It's ignorance I think. I was dairy free when breastfeeding and got told it would make his allergy worse like how? People are crazy lol But if you need some nice bits for your little one the gruffalo chocolate cup cakes and birthday cake from Asda are dairy free and are nice and we just had the magnum chill it's cookies and a little blueberry kind of magnum my little boy loved it x
I have had issues with my MIL with over bearing opinions, comments, turning up unannounced in the past, why don’t we do this/why don’t we do that becoming a little too involved so you’re not alone. Luckily when I ask my husband to tell her he will do it if he hasn’t already said anything. We have an unspoken rule that if it’s my mum I have the word and if it’s his mum he does to avoid awkwardness. I’ve learnt to pick my fights because aside from the above she is very helpful with our LO and she’s great with her but I do think in your case this is a fight worth picking. I’d speak to your husband firstly about how important it is that he’s dairy free and convey that to his mum and if he doesn’t I would take it upon myself to say something it feels like hurting mums feelings shouldn’t come before medical advice about your LO to just keep the peace, I think it needs a stern word but this is something I feel your husband should take on given it’s his mum. Same scenario with the glasses x