Craving attention from my partner
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Therapy to break that iceberg
Oh Lord, when I read how easily some people advise others to end relationships or cut people off, it's just shocking! You don't just throw away 15 years—it’s not an easy decision. We don’t know all the factors, so we can't tell you exactly what to do. We can only offer advice on how to make your own decision. Maybe try changing the way you communicate your feelings and needs. Ask him what he needs—maybe there's something he's not getting, and instead of communicating, he's avoiding you. Make sure he understands how serious this issue is.
@Meis Many thanks for making the effort and for leaving the a reasonable comment here.
Happy Mother's Day. 💐 There could be several things going on. How long ago did you have your child(ren)? The first year is rough on couples... Could he have ppd? Do you need more parent friends so you aren't venting to a spouse who's not interested? Does he need more time with the kids so he better understand your experience? Could you look for other people in your life to affirm your parenting so you're not relying so much on his approval? Is your partner not engaged in parenting and it feels like he's disconnected from family life? Does he have something stressful with his job, parents, etc that he's not fully sharing with you? It would be worth at least trying some counseling. If he won't go though, you'll need to decide what you're willing to accept. Try to plan so that you will be financially ok with whatever happens. I'm sorry you're both going through this. ❤️
Just throwing this out there, something that has and is really helping me has been listening to The Empowered Wife by Lisa Doyle. She also offers marriage coaching individually for women.
Maybe do a little search on YouTube about anxious avoidant relationships. It could shed some light. This could be a defense mechanism on both parts.