Going places
Show your support
He’ll just say something about barely getting sleep last night and just getting home from work. I think it’s just laziness of not wanting to watch our son for an hour 🙃
On the same boat 🙃
For me personally I think both partners should let each other know when they are planning to go somewhere. I wouldn’t say “ask” but check in if it works for both, seems reasonable to me.
I have the same experience. I feel like it is laziness and sometimes a little jealousy of getting out. He has the same freedoms and still complains and has an attitude. Not to mention I do majority of everything! For me I need to figure out if I want to continue to deal with this.
@My it’s so frustrating. Everything I do is beneficial to the household. The only time he doesn’t have an issue with me leaving is either when my son is taking a nap (but that’s still iffy) or if I take my son with me 🙃 I swear If they didn’t have delivery/pick up services I don’t know how I would keep up with everything.
It really is. Mine has a problem rather she is up or sleeping. I get the same response. Can I take her with me. I kept a record of all the free time he gets and he was of course upset but to show him he really doesn’t keep her or watch her as often as he feels. I hate to say it but I feel that he just doesn’t want to be a father or full time father. He feels that he gets time off and to himself from helping. It does not work like that!
And I do not keep up with everything. I do what is within my means. I am exhausted, over extending myself when someone does not help or pour into me. As long as my baby girl is fed and taken care of I do whatever else I can when I can.
My husband fully encourages me to do things solo, especially gym time cuz he knows it’s important for my mental health. I always give him the courtesy of letting him know early in the day what my plans are, and he gives me the courtesy of telling me if there’s going to be any days I can’t go because he has something he needs to do during that time (like once a month he has a union meeting after work, and a lot of times he gets mandatory overtime during storms, etc.)
Sounds controlling or like he doesn't want to be alone with the kid or kids. Not healthy either especially if it's not something bad or like you said you are not even gone that long. Have you tried asking him straight out why he has this attitude problem?