First Mother’s Day Drama

I spent my first Mothers Day with my 11 month old and Husband. All week leading up to Mother’s Day I worked 40+ hours…I then saw my mum after work Friday and again Saturday. I rang her first thing Mother’s Day and tried arranging a time for her to come and collect her flowers and card as she was driving this way to collect something in town. She said she couldn’t tell me a time, I had lunch plans with my husband and daughter so we left at about 2/3pm as we waited around all morning and didn’t want to miss out. I messaged mum a few times but no answer. I finally got hold of her she says she’s already been, I then ask if she was free for me to go round-No answer. I woke up this morning to a text from my dad that said this: ‘It's a bit poor you couldn't give your mum a card for mother's day. Your brother made a big effort. You could have as well.’ I thought I made the effort by choosing to have brunch with her and spend all of Saturday with her after not being with my daughter for 40+ hours this week. I tried organising giving her the card and flowers but she didn’t want to organise a time with me. I just wanted to spend the day with my daughter I make an effort every year for mothers and Father’s Day for my parents and my first one has been made all about my mum and her emotions. I messaged my dad back explaining all of my side to him and I explained to mum that had we communicated better we wouldn’t have missed each other and that it literally is just one day. As long as we appreciate each other we don’t need one day to validate those feelings but I’m being ignored.