In a relationship but still a single parent
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I'm in the same boat. I'm back to work now, but I'm still primarily in charge of dropping and picking the kids up from daycare, setting up and taking the kids to doctors' appointments, getting them ready for bed plus making dinner, and the majority of the house chores. Any time I ask for help, he says, "the kids don't like/want me".
Yep I'm same @Indrea
I’m so glad it’s not just me really thought something was wrong he wondered why I got annoyed yesterday when I was trying to have a self care shower and he come in with the baby asking how long you gunna be about 5 time I gave up after that!
I would call him out on that. Say all you needed, was an undisrupted shower for however long it takes but DO NOT come in w the baby and call you unless it’s an emergency. You need your shower, and that’s the only time you can have it, so he needs to do his end and not disturb you. I would’ve lost it if he came in 5* to disturb me. Put your foot down and tell him that’s not on.
You guys play different roles. As a single parent, you’d have to earn the finances on top of all that. Once he’s home though he should help with the baby. Maybe some compromise? He gets 1 hour of free time every other day but the rest of the time he should help. Every other day you get an hour to yourself too? Or something like that.
We’ve got very similar case. He is helping a lot and I mean a lot but still men life don’t change as much like he is going gym, out with the bike or car, playing games, staying on the pc where I’m always with the little one… well little one is constantly looking for me + EBF with no schedule but as you said sometimes I need a tap out too…like he can figure it out I just need 5 min for myself. I think he started getting it but still men will never fully understand. Maybe you can speak to him and just explain how you feel and that you deserve a bit of time off, ask him to put himself in your shoes. 🙂 you can message me if you need to talk