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Hey mamas, So little back story, over a year ago, I found out my fiancé cheated on me during a really low point in our relationship by talking to another woman he worked with. And that he took our son to meet her. It took a while but we talked it through and we’re slowly moving past it. I have severe anxiety about it happening again so every now and then I go through his phone in the morning while he’s sleeping just for peace of mind. But the other day his phone was locked and he had changed the password. When I asked him about it he said it’s because he’s done with me going through his phone. Am I over reacting in thinking that he’s hiding something? I want to ask him to go through his phone since I’m worried. But I don’t want him mad at me.

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Also, I will not leave him. Our son is too young and leaving is not an option for me. Unfortunately if I could’ve left I would’ve when I found the text messages the first time

If you’re not in the position to leave then sounds like you don’t have a choice other than to trust him then but I know if that were me and my child I’d be gone

I'm not sure or understanding why leaving isn't an option. He clearly is telling you he doesn't trust you and doesn't want you going through his phone. Your child being young now is old enough to leave. Don't put that man above your child or yourself. That's being selfish. And one thing about going through phones I have learned the hard way. There is no reason to go through a man's phone unless you are ready for what comes after.

why wouldnt you leave? he’s obviously cheating again and doesnt want you to find out. unless you’re okay with being cheated on your only option is to leave thats the smart choice

@Magen leaving isn’t an option because he’ll get our son if I do. I work a rotating schedule that doesn’t really allow for childcare. And I can’t leave this job or we wouldn’t be able to afford childcare in total. I’d have nowhere to go to live. No one to help me… and I can’t leave. He’s not mean or cruel and I love him. He treats our son amazing and has been amazing to me.

Sounds like you gotta deal with getting cheated on then. You always have a choice.

I'm sorry but all that are a bunch of excuses. It may be difficult to get a new job. But there is always a way. Being a single mother isn't ideal but if it's what needs to be done to save your mental health. Girl you can do better than this. 💗💗❤️