Mam guilt

It's my 30th birthday Soon and all I wanted was a day out with hubby with out our little one as we haven't spent time alone since he was born hes booked us away for the weekend with our little one and whilst I'm excited to go I feel like I won't enjoy myself as much as I'll constantly still be mam instead of me. Don't get me wrong, I love my little one, but I feel like I never get to be just me anymore. I feel so selfish for even thinking it. Like I won't be able to have an alcoholic drink, I won't be able to enioy a late night out it's just the little things. I feel so guilty

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I get this. You just want some time to yourself. I don’t think you should feel guilty about that at all. How old is little one? Why can’t you have an alcoholic drink? I mean not suggesting you get wasted while you have him with you but… a drink can’t hurt 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Gaby he's 5mo think it's more anxiety around something horrible happening x

Is he EBF? Do you express? Could you maybe take a babysitter with you? Keep him with family? If these aren't options, remove worry of anything going wrong when he's with you and enjoy yourself responsibly 😁 It's a weekend, and honestly, you are not selfish to enjoy some time with yourself and hubby alone. You see being a mom, it's a full time role we unfortunately can't run away from 😂 🫣 You see your 30th birthday, comes just once. If you want to use the opportunity to enjoy one weekend with your hubby, I don't think people will judge you for that. 🤗

If he’s breastfed you can have a few drinks without needing to pump. You can just feed him, it’s not an issue. Not wrong for feeling that way though, it’s nice to not have to be mum for a little bit I feel you! X

I was told we don’t get to be us anymore once we have a child by everyone 🤷🏼‍♀️ dunno if there’s a way around the guilt, sorry about that.

Where are you going like is it a resort/hotel? Look for a spa nearby, go get your nails or facial or massage done while you’re there, go get pampered. And why can’t you drink? I drink when I was BF. Takes ~2hrs for each drink to be out of our system. I’ll have 2 cocktails w the girls and get home 4-5hrs later ready to feed immediately. You can drink while BF. Also when you get back do you have any sisters/gfs you can go out and celebrate your bday? I always do an invite for a dinner a month beforehand and me and my gfs go celebrate my bday. Kid free of course

I get this as well! It’s hard isn’t it but we as mums need a break as well even on our birthdays. I completely understand you wanted a mum and dad break just your two together xx

Have you expressed this to him? And do you have someone that could watch your son while you guys are gone? And please don’t feel guilty ! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with spending alone time with your spouse , that time is needed!

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