Feeling 'out of love' and annoyed by my partner.

Our little one is 14 months old, before she was born we were very in love, my partner proposed to me. We had lots of sex, cuddles, dinners and just generally being happy. After she was born we were still very happy, we haven't had much sex but have been trying to improve on this.. the last few months of so I've been feeling irritated by everything my partner does, I feel angry a lot. I don't feel connected to him anymore. He constantly winds me up. For example we goes to bed quite late and makes lots of noise before bed and it wakes my little girl up, everyday he does this and never chooses to be quiet despite how upset my daughter gets when woken. He doesn't listen to me or my problems or seem empathetic towards my problems or else he would try his best to help. He says he wants to help me but when I tell him how to help, he basically does the opposite. I feel so overwhelmed and overstimulated from being a Sahm he thinks I've got it easy but I'm really struggling but he doesn't see me. In the same breath he points the finger at me for everything. I'm just feeling like I give and give and now when he wants love I don't want to give it/have nothing to give. I'm really stuck at the moment id love any insights?

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Do you get any time just the two of you? Sounds like you need to have an in depth conversation with him about exactly how you feel - overstimulated, overwhelmed etc. Tell him that when you've explained how to help he isn't and that it's impacting your relationship because you feel unsupported and unconnected.

@Natalie we recently had this chat and nothing has sunk in. He still doesn't understand when I ask him to not do/or do certain things that would help me mentally he doesn't seem to care - he thinks I'm nagging him so chooses not to listen

Could you write it down so he can read it and have time to process as opposed to a conversation where everything is answered straight away. He needs to understand that he made the child too so it's not just your job to raise them. Not nagging when asking for basic help.

I was in the exact same situation and then find out he was cheating on me 😔 he used that as an excuse and said he was lonely. So was I but I chose to stay loyal!!! 😢 Now I won’t get to give my son a sibling and not see him everyday thanks to this selfish man

@Stacey I'm so sorry to hear that. There is no excuse for cheating!!! Bless you, you've done the right thing. Xxx

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