Is this fixable?
So, I’ve been with my bf for 5 years. We have 2 kids and are pretty young. A bit of backstory, we started dating in high school and into the second year we had some communication issues. Fast forward to now he is uncontrollable. He flips at me over absolutely nothing, blames me for causing an argument, gets violent, yells, throws stuff, say the most hateful things I’ve ever heard. I’m honestly scared in those moments. I want to leave deep down and I am the one with the job (he basically has refused to get one or keep one). I just don’t know what I can do.
Leave. Any time you question the decision remember you are teaching your child THAT is what a relationship should be. What would you say if your daughter was being treated like that? Her partner gets violent? She was scared of her partner? If your son was behaving like that to his? (You don't say if you have boys or girls)