in In a relationship but basically doing on your own.

Struggling with my relationship

Hi! Me and my husband we have a 6 months old baby girl, and for a while he is very distant, he is keeping him all the time busy , all the time he has something to do. But he is not spending his time with us like in the beginning… I’ve tried to spoke with him about this problem and he is just telling me that I am overreacting and that I am paranoic. He is just playing all the time and speaking with his friend.. and I am tired of that. And also sometimes when I am telling him that he is spending too much time on the computer he is overreacting and he is starting to speak very rude and he slapped me for saying him that. After her did that he was telling me that he is so sorry and didn’t know what was on his mind.. He wasn’t like that before… I really don’t know what to do. I was thinking to divorce… Do you have difficulties in your relationship after giving birth?🥲 I am really struggling

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Hi. Yes it's sounds very familiar to me too

It happened after the first baby 3 years ago. Now we have 2nd baby that is 40 days old .

I would not advise you to go for divorce

You think he will be okay in a while?

Definitely go for divorce!

Lyss do you have family, kids and husband or you are divorced? I don't think you should advise such thing to and put more fuel in the fire she to ruin her family. Life is not easy ,relationships need time and energy to develop them , to make things work. Needs patients and compromises from both sides. No one is perfect. If you look for the ideal men you will stay alone all life. We all need to behave right and forgive ,not to blame and run when the first problem pops. In good time and bad times husband and wife shuld be together, no relationship is only pink ,happy, perfect. Thees things exist only in fairytale not in real life. I think you shud give more time to you both to get use to your new roles, speak with him , don't blame, try yo express how you feel and use "I" statement and keep the conversation open sand let him express his feelings. Try to understand each other. Men and women are different and no one is perfect!

Also put down some boundaries and explain him that you will not tolerate abusive behaviour ,disrespect, etc. If he continues beeing aggressive then he doesn't deserve you and you should then leave him.

But generally patients ,tolerance, respect, friendship, forgiving, understanding each other is the key gof long and successful marriage

Also did you know that men pass thru post partum depression too. You may benefit from some counselling together or at least you if he doesn't want. Also reading psychology books or researching for more information, and now we have also AI to ask all sorts of questions whatever you want. I would advise generally DO NOT TAKE SO DRASTIC decisions without trying to fix things and without you to give time to both of you, without beeing shure if that's what you really want . If you tried everything and you are sure then yes, but not before that. Also I would not advise you to let him hit you and abuse you. If keeps repeating run away.

@Ivalina he slapped her? Should we condone violence?!

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