Trusting my partner...

So my bf has been accusing me of not trusting him with our 1 week old son... he is not totaly wrong. If i hear baby boy cry i will go check on him idc with who he is... but my bf takes it like i don't think hes able to take care of him. I know he can but hes not giving reasons for me to trust him when he falls asleep in a heart beat with baby in his arms and doesnt hear baby cry if something happen he wouldnt even hear... or if baby cries he doesnt check on baby either he just says oh cry and finds it funny... how am i suposed to trust him when he keeps sayings those little comments... it makes me feels horrible about myself for caring so much when i litteraly can't help it 😔 Im gonna try to include him in stuff like do you want to feed him or change his diaper and his answer is always oh nah just do it im chilling... makes me think like he doesnt care whats so ever. We also had a fight about changing him when he poops... he was complaning saying he won't change him everytime he poops hes gonna wait till the diaper is full... i explain to him that if he does that baby boy will have rashes and its not good but he kept saying im not gonna change him everytime its stupid. Sorry now im ranting idk what to say or do im just trying to be a good mom 😔

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You are not crazy, I wouldn't trust him either. Not changing baby's diaper when they've done a poop is absolutely not right - ask your boyfriend if he would sit in it if he pooped himself just a little bit?? Unless it's just fussing while trying to go to sleep or something, if baby that young is actually crying, somebody should check on him (as you're doing). I wouldn't trust this person either if I were you. Sounds like he is not understanding what is required of a good, involved father. I wonder if he has any good father figures in his life that you could subtly ask to talk to him - friends of his who are good dads, somebody like that, as it sounds like he isn't hearing it coming from you.

Wtf. I’m so sorry that you are dealing with this. You are being a good mom. Please stand on this. If you follow his lead, you’d be neglecting your son. My heart hurts for you but more for your baby. Laughed at when crying? Waiting to change poopy diapers? Do you love this man? These all sound like horrible things to be raising your son around. I can appreciate this might have been a rant text. But if this is all true, I wouldn’t leave my son with him either. I would also, more than likely, remove myself from the situation if he didn’t get kinder and more involved. YOU ARE BEING A GREAT MOM. And please keep being so, for your beautiful son’s sake. ♥️ Also: one week old? Spoiler: it gets harder. If he’s checked out now, and borderline abusive, y’all have to have a serious, adult convo to, hopefully, get back on the same team for your son.

I wouldn't trust him either, sounds like he does not care about baby's safety or well being in the least, and he's not taking this seriously. I also wouldn't stay with someone I couldn't trust around my kid tbh. That's not a "leave him" cuz no one can decide that but you, but I know I wouldn't be staying with someone who I couldn't trust with my kid. My kids papa goes above and beyond every day to make sure my son is clean and happy and safe, just like I do. He's both of our number one priority. And both of your number one priorities should be your kid too. If he can't do that he's not cut out to be a dad tbh

We had a sit down talk after my breakdown. I explained my side of things and his side of things. We are now hopefully on the same page. I know he cares for his son he would never let anyone hurt him. We are both learning the diaper thing he told me that he sees it as a waste i do understand that cuz its not cheap but it needs to be done. Anyways thank you ladies for taking the time to comment ❤️

Glad to hear you’re ok. Keep having those conversations. There’s a long, but beautiful road ahead. As per diapers: yes unfortunately you’ll have to stay ontop of it. Rule of thumb is every 2hrs or so unless there’s a poop. Keep in mind besides diaper rash and hygiene issues, you’ll risk a lot of spill over/blow outs if you’re not changing them sufficiently. That’s no fun for you guys either. Reusable, cloth diapers are an option too, especially at this early age. Very best of luck and enjoy your son!!

@Drew thank you so much for your advices ❤️

Sorry but then your boyfriend is a boy and shouldn't even have kids , you have to change there poop diapers that's neglect end of story, I wouldn't trust him too, my husband was great and I still didn't feel 100% with anyone having him but me because I'm the one that held them for 9 months don't let people make you feel bad for that , that's your instinct kicking in because your right you can't trust him when he's saying stuff like that wtf

@Mckinnly we had a huge talk last night about the whole situation. I do grt his point about dispers and one of hes friends thought the same too. I had to explain to both of them why we can't just wait for a diaper to be full to change it its not goood for baby bum. They both agreed at the end. Me and my bf made up and hopefully on fhe same page. I let him baby so i could go shower and he did great. I know hes able to take care of baby hes done it at the hospital when we got home too but he felt like i was watching over his shoulder all the time so he just back off a little to let me do the mother thing. I do get it but at the same time i don't but anyways its solved.

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