Pets and pregnancy

mine was terrible, but my situation i found out my BD was cheating on me during pregnancy, so i left, moved back in with my mom, and that's when everything went downhill, i had to move her to a family with other dogs like her, however, once my ppd started feeling better, i was able to get her back, now i have her back with us

@Nakaela i have so much things going on these days and am really stressed out. I feel like when she does things like peeing/pooping where she isn’t supposed to. Eating things she’s not supposed to, and being destructive it just triggers my rage and I’m closer and closer to giving her up. Only thing that really stops me is when I see my daughter playing and laughing with her. She used to listen to her commands especially when it came to being potty trained but the longer she’s been with us, especially since becoming pregnant, the lazier she’s been getting and I feel like I failed in that department and did something to make her think that she’ll get what she wants by acting up 🤦🏾‍♀️ I have little to no energy to handle her messes and the smells and sight of her messes are huge triggers for me. I’m at that point that I literally have nightmares regarding her.

@Nakaela I made a comment on another post about wishing I never got her and putting her in kennel arrest when she does things she’s not suppose to (mostly to protect my peace of mind and to keep her in a safe space while I calm down and take care of whatever it is keeping her away from the cleaning chemicals as well) but after being harassed by these two annoying “dog over humans” lovers It opened a door and I got to hear from others who also had a strained relationship with their pets and it made me wonder if there are more people who have experienced this because it isn’t often talked about or heard of!!

Nope. But talk with a trainer. Rehoming a pet because they are acting out and not harming a kids, is insane. A pet is part of your family. A pet is a lifetime commitment. If you decide to rehome her I seriously hope you never consider getting another pet…. And this is coming from a trainer, and someone who worked in shelters. It’s extremely traumatizing for animals to be rehomed

@Makaila using a crate as punishment is your first mistake… please please don’t do this. A crate is a safe space and needs to have a positive environment for them.

@Gabrielle I value quality of human life over the quality of an animals life. But this is a no judgement free zone in my comments I’ve already dealt with judgy people. In a perfect world every dog would have a home and never be rehomed but this world is far from perfect. People are stressed and situations happen. I value human life over pet lives any day and I would never judge somebody because they had to make a hard decision to give up a pet. Harming a kid isn’t the only reason a pet can be incompatible with a family they are in. I rather somebody protect their mental health than try to force themselves to take care of an animal that’s making life harder for them. I witnessed my dog getting put down and I held resentment for so long over it I was 100% against rehoming dogs and euthanasia for any reason but after having a dog it made me realize that those decisions don’t come easy and a lot go into making them!!

@Gabrielle she willingly goes into her cage so it’s a safe space for her!! I’m not leaving her out the cage when she’s pooping and peeing especially if she was just walked, I’m not leaving her out the cage while I’m cleaning so she can try and drink the chemical water, I’m not leaving her out the cage when my toddler throws food that can make her sick like chocolate or grapes or tomatoes on the floor. On top of that I see it safer to have her in the cage when she has upset me to give me time to collect myself before having her enter my space only to grow more resentful towards her. I’ve already had this conversation and it’s an exhausting one. She’ll never be in her cage for more than 30-60 min long because as a kid I saw how bad for their health it was to have a dog in a cage for a prolonged amount of time. But it’s necessary. Some may agree and others disagree. But anyways give advice and share experiences but please no judging. These are real humans with real emotions l!!

@Gabrielle this post is to bring awareness about real situations regarding pet ownership and pregnancy. And if people judge harshly then this conversation will never be had and it will never have a true solution because people will be too scared to talk about it!! Pregnancy is one reason for rehoming pets and if we can have a healthy non judgemental conversation about the cons and how to cope then maybe you’ll see less pets getting rehomed and maybe even more getting adopted. And as a trainer and somebody who used to work in a shelter and saw the trauma isn’t that something you’d prefer to see?

@Makaila i can see where it can be difficult with your daughter and the pup, my son screamed everytime she was around because one time she lunged at him, being playful but being just out of his newborn stage, he wasn't very fond of it.. She didn't like being potty trained after i had my son and i never connected it whether there was a different issue, or if it was because she saw me now taking full care of my son, im honestly not sure, you gotta do what's best for you, everyone is gonna have their own opinions, but personally, i can see where people are inlove and obsessed with dogs, i love dogs too, but the smells, the messes, it got bad, i couldn't do it alone, and more or less with a newborn on my hip, so i did what i had to do, if i get hate for that, i simply reply "well im so happy your life turned out how youd like it too, but i can't do it alone, and YOU can't force me to do so. im choosing my mental health over making YOU happy. thanks tho!"

Also since getting pregnant I have grown a hatred/resentment towards this dog like no other and I am trying to figure out ways to cope with it. My husband and I have had conversations about what rehoming means for us and if it’s something we’d have to do. I truly believe if I could go back in time I’d choose never to have adopted a dog because I personally feel tormented by her atm. Before pregnancy I was able to handle all the messes and deal with the destruction easily but after becoming pregnant my tolerance levels are low and I become irritated even at the sight of her. I have made it clear to him that I would not rehome her while pregnant because I do not know if it’s the pregnancy causing these emotions or if I really truly am just no longer a dog person and this is the reason for me wanting to bring light to this conversation. Dogs are a big responsibility but life changes so much you never know what your cards hold.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you’re fucking delusional. I went through 2 pregnancies and never wanted to rage at my dog. Rehoming a dog should never be in question unless every possible option has been gone through. Training is one. I’d prefer to see people who actually understand the commitment they make when bringing a pet into their home. You clearly need help. You’ve made 2 posts about this within a few minutes of eachother. I seriously hope you do rehome the dog and that you never get another pet ever again. This is absolutely disgusting that you want to rage at this dog for no other reason than the dogs progress of training. You want advice I gave you advice. Get a professional trainer to help, never use a crate as punishment. If your dog licks the floor while you clean, that’s on you and the dogs training. My dogs been through quite a lot of training and even before her training she never licked chemicals. You say you don’t want your dog to eat food thrown by your toddler? Train your dog, get a

Professional trainer for the dog, you want the dog to stop having accidents in the house, get a trainer.. you really seem to lack intelligence, because all of this can be solved by getting training and continuing the training even after the dogs done.

This dog has bonded to me more than anyone else in this household and that’s because I take care of her to the best of my ability but since pregnancy I have had to have my husband fully take over but I tell him exactly what to do and not to do with her because I want her to stay healthy and well taken cared of. It makes me just as mad seeing her neglected as it does seeing her do naughty things. If he forgets to feed her and doesn’t tell me that pisses me off the most because she doesn’t deserve that and I’ll know because I monitor what she eats all the time and her weight and I check her ears because she has floppy ears and make sure she gets her coconut oil for her skin because I had a dog with skin and ear problems and I don’t want her suffering the same. But anyways point is rn is hard for me to be around her and I just want to not only bring awareness to the cons but I also want to hear how others overcame them. And as I said and can’t stress enough if they see other

Getting judged over it nobody will ever feel comfortable to talk about it so for anybody commenting in the future please no judging!!! Good strong advice is appreciated and not just saying don’t do that but like giving alternatives and what to do’s would greatly help instead!!!

@Gabrielle I’m not delusional I’m a real human. Anyways I used the word regression but the correct term is aversion 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ pet aversions!! Just because you haven’t gone through it doesn’t mean it isn’t possible. Do your research!! People like you are the reason nobody ever talks about their experiences with it!!

@Gabrielle i'm very convinced this is the reason you don't have any friends and will never have any friends if this is how you talk to people, your "younger self" reflection in your profile says something about don't believe what other people say and talk about you? honey maybe you need to take a very good look in the mirror. you TURNED into that person that little girl didn't like. YOU need help. Go take care of your daughter instead of bringing down another female. If you wanna keep being disrespectful, i'll be happy to take this to private messaging. get out of her comments and quit being disgusting, raising your daughter and teaching her talking to people like this is okay, YOURE DISGUSTING AND YOU NEED HELP!!!!!

Makaila, feel absolutely FREE to text me if you need anything, it's a hard time right now and i can see where your hormones are gettin to ya, take deep breaths, and don't listen to those who make you feel like you're not doing amazing, you're doing the best you can and THATS amazing! sending all love to you🫶🏽

@Gabrielle I feel sorry for you. You can sympathize for animals but not fellow humans. I commented multiple times because this is an actual issue that I actually want to learn about. Pet aversions are real and more common than you think. But not talked about due to judgement from others. If you cannot comment without judging please don’t comment at all. If you are a dog trainer then you should also know how to communicate with the owners in a way that would make them want to keep the dog not want to give them up even more. Also pregnancy rage is a real thing just as much as pet aversion during pregnancy is. Just cause you haven’t experienced it doesn’t mean it isn’t real. I’d suggest you read the book Horton hears a who!!!

@Nakaela lmaooooo I actually have quite a lot of friends. I don’t even get on this app🤣🤣🤣 my daughters are asleep. It’s 11 pm in Hawaii. I gave her advice. Not my fault she shouldn’t have gotten a pet that she didn’t train/keep up with training. Pets are life long commitments and if someone can’t handle someone else telling them that, then that’s on them.

@Nakaela thank you honestly thank you a lot. I’ve been suffering from this for months and bringing it to light made me want to reflect on it more and find a solution before making any major decisions. I know my dog is innocent but I can not help how I feel. I’ve cried so much and have had so many times when I wanted to just jump off a balcony because it’s so stressful. I’ve felt guilty for loving her and then hating her without knowing why. I found out about pet aversions by accident and still tried to figure it out on my own but after hearing others stories it made me feel like there was hope and I just want to bring positive awareness to a harsh topic. But people like her are the reason nobody will ever speak up!!

@Makaila I deal with owners that actually help their dogs. You haven’t. 🤷🏼‍♀️ not my client so I don’t have to speak to you the way I speak to them. I also tell them like it is. If they were to say something like this I wholeheartedly would tell them the same thing. Pets are lifelong commitments. You adopted that sweet girl, and yeah her training is lacking but that’s no fault of her own. Get the dog in training, or rehome and never own another animal again. Because this is disgusting behavior. Pets are apart of your family too. Get into therapy to help yourself. Get the dog in training. 🤷🏼‍♀️ don’t like what your being told, don’t take it to social media. Also you should be aware, I’ve screenshotted both of these posts and if any of the people I know in this group tell me you’ve rehomed the dog, I will blast this and your profile in every dog community group so that you will have no chance to be able to do this again.

@Nakaela I personally don’t go incognito because I feel like if they see that I am a real person with a family and I am not hiding behind a screen maybe they’ll feel more comfortable to come out about it too!! I have been seeing sooo many shelters over filled for years now and a lot of it has to due with cost of living, family changes, moving , and so forth and if having the hard conversation maybe helps a few dogs stay with their family then I’ll have the hard conversation. As somebody who suffers from ptsd it was hard for me to even start using peanut. I had this account made for so long but couldn’t use it in fear of giving out to much info but before my trauma I loved psychology. I always lived knowing the whys behind everything and maybe that’s why I’m so obsessed with this particular issue rn. It took a lot for me to even share my harsh truths and maybe being pregnant gave me a boost of confidence to stand up against the judgement and to keep pushing the topic.

But I really honestly hope that seeing me get judged doesn’t stop others from coming out about it!!! Because your experiences really can help somebody else and their pet!!!!

@Makaila trust me i had many hard convos, ive actually had to go to therapy over her, it was a mix of, it was extremely hard to do it alone, again BD cheated, i left, moved back in with my mom, but my bedroom was in the basement, which means my dog was with me, walking upstairs, she was hyper, i almost fell down the stairs multiple times because she pushes and runs and she's active i get it, but again, it got hard being pregnant and then i had a newborn, so i guess my situation it was more of a gave her to a trainer for a couple weeks, and then i got her back, and that trainer i knew from family so id visit her everyday, but i couldn't take her up and down and then with a newborn it was difficult, so do what you gotta do, people are gonna say what they want, but they don't know you situation nor know how you feel.

I wish I could edit this post but instead of the word regression I meant to say aversion, PET AVERSIONS, but mommy brain has hit me harder this time around!!

I did. I loved my dog before pregnancy and then during I’m not sure why but I hated her. She does the same thing ur dog does so maybe that’s why I became turned off eventually. She use to pee and poop all over the house and I hated it. My husband did all the bathroom take outs w her and stuff. I eventually gave her up though because my husband went away and I had a NB. But the regression didn’t went away after pregnancy

And her smell made it even worseeeee.

@Jody thank you so much for your honesty ♥️♥️💪🏾 My husband will be away for two weeks about a month after I give birth so I feel that will be a true test for me Right not it is just so hard with everything going on and her behavior changes. I’m hoping that I can overcome this but I’m not sure. This is my first time experiencing this. And I feel so bad for her but I also feel so overwhelmed!!

@Makaila ofc and yeah if you’re gonna be by urself it’s gonna be a challenge. Luckily I had my mom here so I was able to take out the dog while someone was watching my baby. Good luck though and don’t listen to that other girl there’s absolutely nth wrong w rehoming a pet

@Jody I can’t even remember most the things she said. She blocked me which ultimately did me a favour because now I don’t have to see her comments. So many judge without even knowing or having experienced for themselves. I’m just hoping this conversation could be had and maybe it’ll help others as much as it helps me!!!

Would you “rehome” your baby because of their bad traits? If your dog is not your baby, I don’t know why you chose to have her in the first place. If that’s even an existing option for you, find someone who will actually see this dog as their child. Dogs just like your BABY deserve love and affection. She loves you unconditionally. Find her a good home, rehome her. End of story. I am disabled with very little mobility, I have mental health problems, there is literally no excuse. Sorry not sorry but not everyone deserves to be dog owners.

@Hanife how u gonna contradict urself in the same response? U started with would u rehome which simple means you’re against it then proceeded to say she should rehome it.

@Hanife please read the comments above and understand that this comment section is a judgement free zone so that it’s easier for moms who go through this to have an easier time talking about a hard topic ♥️

@Hanife reality check to. Everybody is not the same, everybody walks a different path, everybody handles things differently. Kudos to you for being able to handle it but some can not. That does not give you the right to judge somebody who wasn’t able to just cause you were!! The dog is not my baby, a companion sure but baby no. When I got her o was not pregnant and not having these problems with her. Things happen lives change and factors play a role in circumstances…. That’s all that’s to it. Unless you have positive and impactful advice or words of encouragement for those 67% who have experienced this then please do not comment at all. Experiencing such an ordeal is hard enough without judgmental people like you!!!

When I was pregnant I was fine with my dog nothing changed, it wasn't until baby came along that I felt a little bit of hate towards him, I was single mum with a new born (no dad, no village) so he didn't have as much one on one time he was used to for the last 10years, he started going toilet in the house but I think that was cos he seen my son getting more attention ect. I just gave him his one on one attention when baby was sleeping, we'd play in the garden, cuddle on the sofa ect and he stopped doing it. But I'm jot judging u what so ever, u gota do u sometimes, it don't matter what people think, but she's kid of right, it's about training, take everything as a training exercise and make it a game, like baby drops food, dogs waits until u say he can have it or not, if the dog listens he gets a treat ect. I duno that's what I did anyway and life was so much easier. But never once did I think about re homing. He was my 1st baby. U wouldn't get rid of ur toddler if he/she played up when the new born arrived

Ud make things work and re think strategies ect to make u be able cope and get on with things, a dog is like having a toddler with 4 legs 😂 i had to adjust to the new way of living, I did right up until I had to put my dog to sleep on my sons 1st birthday. I duno that's my opinion and experience anyway 🤷

@Zoey thank you for sharing ♥️ when I got pregnant I had only had her for 4 months so it really cut that bonding time short for me you know. I never even knew pregnancy could cause a thing like pet aversions. I also suffered from breastfeeding aversions on top of it and aversions to every meat other than steak. It’s like my body and kind just started disliking anything that could put my unborn child at risk. I’m starting to nurse my toddler again because those versions are slowly subsiding and I started being able to eat chicken again but with the dog it was just a much stronger aversion towards her. I did some research and found that it could be because she is constantly around me. But there isn’t a lot out there in the topic because it isn’t talked about much and I can honestly see why based off of the judgements being passed so loosely. I’ve wanted kids since I was 9 so I’m automatically going to hold my biological flesh and blood kids to a higher importance than a dog.

@Zoey I personally cannot compare my relationship with my kids to a dog none the less put them on the same level. All though I have loved a dog once. The dog when we got her was fully trained and she would listen to her commands, she didn’t eat off the floor, she used the potty pads, we used to leave her out the cage when we were and weren’t home, but once I became pregnant it’s like she started to undo all of that. And the crazy part is she only does the most annoying things around/in front of me. Husbands home she uses the potty outside but if he’s asleep or not home she’ll look me straight in the face and poop and pee without even getting up most the time just look at me and do it. She likes to act up when we have company now, and she jumps on me even though she knows jumping, licking, and being in my bed is not allowed.

@Zoey I don’t know why she decided to just forget her training, well actually I think it could be because she recognizes my pregnancy

@Zoey I don’t want to make any decisions regarding her until after I’ve had the baby and gotten a set schedule. We are also in the process of moving to a house so she can have a yard. I’m hoping it makes the experience better and I can repair the bond with her but for the sake of my mental health and ability to care for my family if it does not get better I am looking to rehome her. She’ll continue to be up to date on shots. New family will have to have pet insurance for her like we do, and we will be getting her spayed to avoid any irresponsible decisions being made

@Zoey I really do appreciate your feed back. Maybe me keeping my distance from her is what is making it worse. I figured if I keep my distance then that way I’d be triggered less but I don’t think it made much of a distance maybe it made the situation worse because I fed into it more. Idk but I really appreciate the relatable stories and the honesty!!!

I wish I knew this app whenever I was suffering with mine 🥺 it gets better though!!

@Ana Moore ♥️♥️♥️ I really hope so because before I was pregnant I really enjoyed taking her and my daughter on hikes up mountain trails and running in streams and feeding her special meals and going to the nice dog parks like the nice ones that make it look like they are running in a forest. And once I have the baby and things settle down I’d like to go back to that. Fingers crossed it gets better 🤞🏾

@Makaila That's fine, people have different relationships levels with their pets (if that makes sence 😂) could it be and I don't mean this in a negative way, but could it be because uve taken a step back from her, she's picked up on that and does it cos she can sence u don't really like her right now, my dog used to do it with my mum cos she was soft with him and didn't use the same commands ect and he would absolutely take the piss and push the boundaries with her cos she'd never tell him off lol. Also, she could be marking her territory as she knows ur pregnant, also female dogs are more likely to mark their territory around the time they are in heat too. She could also be doing it because of anxiety, u smell different, u treat her differently (before the aversion) especially if shes so attached to u, it's probably scares her a little and she doesn't understand what's happening, like say ur best mate randomly stopped talking to u, and spoke if u spoke to her and answered with one word answers, ur gona

Feel uncomfortable and ask wtf is going on, but obviously she can't, so she could be feeling that way 🤷 obviously she can't say. But maybe start back with refreshing her memory training wise doing like 10 mins a day to see if that helps

@Zoey she isn’t fixed yet I’m waiting on a voucher from the shelter but honestly I didn’t know dogs are prone to marking when in heat!!!!

@Zoey that’s actually new info I learned I didn’t even know female dogs marked their territory at all tbh!!!

@Zoey and yeah I was reading your first comments about how your dog started acting up when they started getting less attention and was thinking that maybe me feeding into the aversion and distancing myself made it worse for her and I!! Tbh tho I didn’t even know pet aversions existed until one night I was so mad with her over something stupid I started crying because I felt so bad for her I did some research and found out it’s actually more common than one would thing and I was most likely suffering from it but by then I still had no clue how to fix it and I wish I made this post sooner because it really helps hearing from others who also have experienced something similar!!

@Makaila your welcome, if she is marking her territory then getting her neutered could help improve/stop it, if she carries on after then it could be out of habit and that's something only training will fix. U can get a spray that u spray round the house and it makes it smell horrible so they don't wee/poo. I duno where u are, in the UK it's called wee away, I think the US version is called pee away

I've said this before and I'll say it again. These people who keep on saying "train your dog better, get a professional trainer" blah blah blah are delusional. Studies have shown that pets act out with different situation. Take mine, I had 2 dogs. Got rid of both. Why? Bc the one got super jealous of my newborn and wouldn't stop running away, last time she ran away I didn't look for her. She ran away 6 times within 1 week all bc i brought my newborn home. I'm not chasing a damn dog down while I have a newborn at home. 2nd dog was sweetest ever until newborn came then she got overprotective of him and snapped at me and my SS for even getting near my baby. No just no. It's better to remove a dog so they get love from someone else other than staying in a house where it's miserable or they don't get enough love and attention. I absolutely hate people who are like "your a horrible person if you remove your pet". No your doing the smart thing by removing the pet so the pet can get the love & attention they deserve.