Finances

Me and my bd been together for a year we had the baby in that time span.. we live together and been struggling a little financially we have it set up to where he’s supposed to be paying full rent and his phone bill is in my name and he pays 1/2 lights he hasn’t been giving full rent he stopped paying his phone bill and the light. he’s been short on it all and then like he used to pay me the money back if he didn’t have it in the due date but then he stopped even doing that so I’ve been paying everything anyways I told him we need to sit down and talk finances to see exactly how much we are making and we’re our money is going and come up with a plan so we can pay bills save and also have money for fun. So it’s finally the day he agreed to do that. But when I start asking about his income he’s like I don’t have a ring on my finger he’d rather wait until then to talk finances … I just don’t get it though cause we have a baby together we live together the goal is eventually marriage like what are we working towards ??? The financial plan was so we can set goals and grow together. I feel like he just told me that he doesn’t know if he sees a future with me I’m just irritated I don’t need a roommate I want a partner am I wrong is he wrong I need another opinion ..

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You are not wrong I would suggest have him move out of your house until he marries you

He's not exactly a room mate unless he is paying half the rent and half the bills.... I'd tell him we discuss finance or he can leave until we are married or we part ways. Do not carry him.

You can dm me pooh if u wanna talk, I feel you 😔

Momma you are not wrong yall need to sit down like adults and figure it out

you’re totally right! A child is a huge commitment, if he doesn’t believe it equates marriage like responsibilities then he most likely is on the fence about it and doesn’t want to tell you, but wants to keep living in the same household so you both pay for things. I’m sorry you’re going through this i hope you’re able to discuss things and come to a mutual agreement!

If he has money saved and a plan then there is no reason not to pay rent and bills on time. That would be my boundary if you're OK with everything else. The boundary is and make it clear: The next time you do not pay your share you are out. You are a grown man and I will not carry you. Your big plans mean nothing to me if you "seem" to be struggling with the basics. The rest ain't none of my business but whether you like it or not, rent and bills while we live together are. If you can't see that then you are not thinking about your family. Just yourself. That's what I would say 🤷🏼‍♀️

You are not wrong! This is a partnership... discussion is needed. A ring doesn't make any difference

Idk.. people are saying wait to get married but idk if I wouldn’t wanna marry someone who isn’t being a partner now… the way you put in the beginning where he said he doesn’t wanna talk about til marriage is giving he doesn’t want talk about until he has you locked down in marriage which is a red flag to me…

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