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It depends what you're comfortable with. Was he always like this? Could you do this for the rest of your life? I'd stop bothering with his gifts and special events since he does buy/make effort for everyone else.
I hate to be blunt like this but he’s choosing this behaviour. Missing one birthday or anniversary is an accident but this is clearly a pattern, especially when he’s capable of doing it for other people. I would be very clear about what you want/expect and let him know how you feel when he forgets. If he values you as a partner he should step up, if he doesn’t maybe assess whether or not he’s someone you want to continue to be with.
I have expressed this last year and the year before. He appeared to be genuinely sorry and gutted he'd made me feel a certain way then continued this on. I also am not acknowledging special occasions moving forward as why should I put in the time and effort if he cannot but it does upset me
I found out also the flowers his dad bought as he felt bad for me
Maybe it’s because gifts are my love language but unless my husband was literally the most amazing human being in literally every other way (like practically Jesus) there is no way I could be with him if he was like this. I’m sorry that you are being taken for granted. You do not deserve that at all. NO you’re not asking too much you’re asking the bare minimum
is he your husband? if hes your boyfriend and hes not meeting certain standards maybe you should move on if its that importsnt or make him prioritize you over the vapes
I would just send him my wishlist like a few days in advance with links to products etc. that way he has no excuse to not get you something!
I have tried that too and even keeping it simple as I'm not one to like expensive gifts anyway more a new pjs n chocolate kinda girl
@Mrs. M boyfriend but he has mentioned wanted to get married but not proposed officially but even that he probably sees it as an engagement because he mentioned it now and would never get a ring n expect me to arrange a wedding n him just turn up kinda thing... I can't imagine he'd actually make an effort. I know it sounds stupid but when he passed the flowers off as his... I said can he take them out the plastic covering etc n put in a vase and he left them there dying for days, (so did I) but i was like even that you can't make an effort n then found out his dad got them. It's not like he didn't know it was morhers day when we dropped his mothers day things to his own mom and then days went by...
This just gets worse and worse I’m so sorry girl :( you deserve so much better. This is not someone who loves you :(
If you don’t mind me asking, how is he in other aspects? Does he help with the kids? Is he a really good father? Is he attentive to you?
Sorry I can’t help but That’s very unfortunate. My husband is the same way always has been. It’s never changed it actually gotten worse now that we have kids. He doesn’t think gifts are necessary he just says buy whatever you want.