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i'm a vet, military wife and brat myself. i got a bunch of stories and advice lol hmu! i need more milsol friends!!

My husband is in boot camp now!! We are never apart so it’s definitely a change. First week was rough adjusting. Lotssss of outside time but also the weather here kinda sucks rn so indoor activities. We don’t have family near either so I’m solo. To cope I probably don’t have the best advice, we are going to where he is for his second part of training and I’m very grateful we have the ability to do so because 6 month is a long time. For now though being alone for 2 months I’m just constantly keeping the kids busy and on a schedule. I write down things I want to share with him for the week so he doesn’t feel super out of the loop and send pictures as well

@Tati I would like that! Thank you! ☺️

@Tiffany as far as I understood from the recruiter we cannot join him on his second part of training… I think we’ll be able to see him only in August (if he won’t need a third part…) Luckily I’m working at my son’s daycare (different age groups) so it gives us something to do… 😅

@Maayan ahh yea im sure it’s different for everybody, thats so nice you can keep a good eye on your sweet baby! 🥰

Stay busy, write him letters and send him art your LO makes, and keep your phone on you on the weekends in case he calls so you don't miss it

I know it’s different for everyone but my husband (air force) is gone allll the time and sometimes for weeks to over a month at a time and i have a 6m old right now and we also have absolutely no family here and the one thing that keeps me sane is a day to day schedule, finding one specific thing to do every day. Whether it’s just going to the park or a walk or going and walking around target. Whatever you can do to get yourself out of the house at least 3-4 days a week has helped me make the days go by faster. Also having a good support system of facetime family/friends when i just need a break my LO loves to chat with her aunties over the phone lol

The first few days/ week are rough adjusting but once you get into a schedule it starts to feel a little less overwhelming, it’s never easy being both parents at the same time but you got this! I’m sure a bunch of us here would be more than happy to just chat if you’re needing to vent or just need someone to talk to, to keep you sane lol.

@Natalie Thank you!! Luckily I work so at least I have some routine to keep me sane… or at least help the days go faster! I know from a friend of my husband that sometimes they have really long deployments too… on the one end I want to support my husband and his wish to enlist, on the other it feels so hard to raise our LO almost by myself… and my husband hope that we’ll have another child soon