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I Need Advice

So I could really use some helpful input on a bit of a sticky situation here. I’ve been with my husband since I was 19 and I am now 26 and we have three beautiful babies together but since I’ve known my husband he’s had a very close friend of his that he’s known since childhood and we’ll just call him Clark here, but since I’ve known Clark he’s been a bit odd towards me over the years including offering to let me practice driving his truck when his girlfriend at the time was in the car, saying he wanted to kiss me with a room full of people present because I got him a hat for his birthday one year, and making conversation with me even when I clearly reserve myself because I’m not a very social person and he makes me feel annoyed? Okay but this is the weirdest one ladies and I want to know am I genuinely reading too much into it: About a week ago (mind you he hasn’t come over to see or hangout with my husband in several months but always texts my husband and knows that my husband has a very uncertain work schedule where he can even work nightshifts depending on how things are going) I’m in the front yard of our house when a truck pulls up and it’s Clark and he asks if my husband is home and I say “No he’s at work and should be home around 4pm” but Clark doesn’t leave and just interacts with my kids in the yard and asks what I’m up to and so we chat for a minute but he still isn’t leaving and I keep telling him I’ll let my husband know that he stopped by and wants to hangout but he still doesn’t take off for another 5 minutes explaining he came over on his lunch break and yadayada but finally after I just become very reserved and quiet he tells me to let my husband know when they could do a bbq together. Guys, why did he not simply call or text my husband before driving over? Why not text him about doing a bbq? Am I reading too much into the situation? He knows I’m a sahm and don’t go anywhere without my husband but I really don’t know what to think of the situation rather than it being odd. He also just broke up with his girlfriend of 8 years a month ago after he caught her cheating but he’s known she was cheating for awhile but it never really mattered to him because he had his eyes on someone else is what he told my husband.

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You’re reading far too into this ..

I will agree that’s very odd indeed however, some people tend not to see things like this as an issue or an invasion of privacy or even able to read it’s making you uncomfortable. Perhaps mention it all to your husband and explain that you’ve not said anything about it because you could just be reading too much in to it and didn’t want to cause unnecessary upset and if your husband can’t reassure you or shed any light as to why Clark may be acting this way, at the very least he could mention that you’ve raised feelings with him and just ask Clark to be a little more mindful

@Shannon I had tried talking to my husband in the past after Clark made the comment of wanting to kiss me but that my husband would probably make fun of us if he did. My husband got very angry though when I tried to bring it up because his friend Clark got caught making out with my husband’s ex high school sweetheart in my husband’s father’s house at the time. His father warned me about Clark when we first met and told me that story but I really thought nothing of it at the time.

I would listen to your intuition. If it feels off it is off. I had a similar situation (but with my sisters husband) where he would make odd comments- such as he liked me so much he married my sister, he wished I was his kids mom, etc- every one else ignored it/laughed off and I was like no this is uncomfortable. After 10 years of escalating behavior I find out he had an encryption on my phone and had been breaking into my home. 3 trips to court and 3 convictions later I ended up moving out of state from my home town because he still would not leave me alone. Not saying your situation is the same and I’m not trying to scare you but I wish I had listened to my gut sooner. The quicker you cut ties the less likely he is to escalate the situation. If you think it’s weird you don’t have to continue to entertain a relationship with him and your husband shouldn’t expect you to.

Oh gosh! I think it might be time for your husband to make friends with better people 👀

Yeah, I mean men get testy. They will try and some even report back to your husband. Don't just think it's odd, share it with your husband. Not us. Tell him your concerns so he can address them with his friend.

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