Advice needed

I’ve been with my daughter’s father for 15 years. She’s 1-1/2 now. He’s always been a drinker but it seems like half way into pregnancy he got worse. He’s drinking has gotten to tho point that I made him make a decision. He quits and gets sober or I quit my job. I couldn’t handle the stress of both anymore. My last day was officially on Friday. He’s been wigging out starting to feel the stress of taking on all the responsibilities. I was suppose to go back to school so it can give us a better life financially. But the way he’s acting I feel I should just go back to work and leave him. He’s not physically abusive but is very much verbally. It’s taken its toll to the point that even his parents see his drunken behavior. Idk how to help him. I just need some peace for myself so I’m 100% for our daughter and I. I feel his drinking is either gonna get worse on his days off or he won’t be able to handle it like he says he would mentally. And yes he makes more than enough to support us financially. Advice needed pls

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Go back to work and divorce. You and your daughter deserve better. As someone who grew up in a house with an alcoholic father figure… I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. And you definitely dont deserve any abuse. And as someone who left an alcoholic husband… being a role model to my kids was my final push out the door. My kids deserve a happy mom who shows them what real happiness in a relationship can look like.

Why would you leave your job just because of his drinking?

@Natalie bc I’d have to call out bc he would be on a bender so I couldn’t have him watch our daughter. Or I’d have to take my daughter to work with me bc he would knock out on my lunch but not wake and if he did wake he would be go sneak liquor and yet again I can’t leave my daughter with him like that. She’s only 1-1/2! She’s not old enough to care for herself.

Leave him he doesn't care about you

Leave him not only for you but also for your daughter. Do you want him to be a role model for your child? Do you want your relationship with him to be her point of reference in her future? I hope you can resolve this in the best way possible.

So, if you stay with him, you’d have to give up your job, take on more responsibilities, and meanwhile he’d still get to be blackout drunk. You’re giving him a reward, not a consequence. He has to get sober or he has to go.

It's down woods spiral, Maybe he needs to hit rock bottom before he realises what hes got and lost. Eg losing u and his daughter and possibly his job. Leave him, might make him realise he needs to change. Ur daughter does not need to see that growing up either, it will have a long lasting effect on her. (coming from someone who's seen what it can do 1st hand)

It sounds like he’s an addict. He won’t be able to just stop. He needs some help

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