How do you cope with partners moods?

I feel so often these days that I'm about to explode with how immature and unreasonable he is. He works full time so is tired on days off, I get that, but there is no "day off" from kids. He makes subtle digs about how I only work part time so I don't understand how it feels to be busy and tired. I'm the one that does all the night wakes, is up every morning with our son, plans absolutely everything that he needs, does all the cooking for him, takes him out on my days off, don't get me wrong I love being part time and wouldn't change it but it's like I'm tired too and don't act like an asshole because I'm tired. he is a great dad in the sense that he loves our son and happily spends time with him, but he thinks it's easy because all he does is the fun bits. If I leave him to it for a day the house is a wreck, he's hardly fed him anything decent and sticks the telly on then has the cheek to say I've got it easy! We also differ a lot in our parenting styles which is a whole other story but it's just really starting to get to me. I've actually heard him just earlier say to our son, oh good it's just you and me on Wednesday with no mummy, like wtf?

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Oh girl. I really don't have any advice but I'm here to say we are living very similar lives. I'm sending you hugs! Feel free to message me!

@Melissa it's honestly so hard not to completely lose it. He just sounds like dick the things he says. I'm currently putting our son to bed as I do every night while he's relaxing, guarantee the washing will still need hung up once I'm done in here but he would never think to do that, he needs his "time to chill" it's a joke honestly

@Melissa he's been making stupid comments all day like silly digs about absolutely nothing as if it makes him feel better or something, I don't know? Like one of these was literally about the fact I was cold he had an issue with that, I can't even put into words how ridiculous he acts sometimes and I try to ignore it but it's like dealing with a teenager, talking about me through our son, stupid shit like that

You mentioned that you try to ignore his awful behaviour… are you conflict avoidant? Because me and my husband for example we argue/bicker often since having our LO but we keep each other in check that way eg we won’t say whatever is on our mind in a moment of anger because we know the other one will react and we don’t want that. By react I mean give an angry verbal response and stop talking to the other until they get an apology.

I know what you mean, it's harder being the stay at home parent

Have you ever thought about leaving town for a bit so he can handle everything on his own? Tell him to make dinner, wake him up at night. People cross boundaries especially when they don’t know they exist. I will say he is being rude, but be open and communicate don’t let it fester.

I'm so sorry. I am just now seeing that you reposted. Feel free to message me @Incognito 👻 👻 I go through all of the same things! The belittling, the "jokes", the lack of help, thr passive aggressive insults. I've been there! I'd love to chat with you!

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