How to get over my baby daddy?

think of it this way, why are you wasting time hanging on to someone who clearly could give a crap about you. move on peacefully, and find and make space for someone who will utterly adore you and your daughter 🥰

Girl you don’t have a baby daddy, you have a sperm donor. And just treat him as such. Live your life the way you want to with your daughter and don’t give him a second thought. Especially if he isn’t even on the birth certificate.

Trust me when I say this, the way he was treating you will be exactly the way he’ll be treating the new girl and the next one and the next one, it’s all smoke and mirrors. Never let a man or anyone dictate how you feel or have a hold over you - this is something that you can control. It’s tough being young and single however it will be so rewarding. Block everything so you don’t see anything and focus on yourself and your little one. One day you’ll look back and think thank god he didn’t stick around! You’ll also find someone that is there for you but be extremely picky. Time is a healer x

1. she didn’t win anything 2. he’s still the same guy just has a mask on 3. invest in yourself so much you forget he even existed

Thank you for all of your comments I did need a full reality check I love the sperm doner idea that make me chuckle

Go find you a NEW man ! Matter fact focus on you & your child until the right love finds you ! F*** him , F*** what he got going on ! MOVE ON the same way he has !

Just remember, he’s a narcissist and will never care about anyone more than he does himself. He will never feel a deep connection with you or your daughter. If you’re struggling financially, then he needs to pay child support. But if you want him out of your life and have family that can help, write him out of your life. Being a biological father does not make this guy a parent. And trust me, as the second woman, he treated me and looks at me now just like he did his ex-wife; their happiness won’t last. We all make mistakes, love, but you can heal from this. 🫶🏻

Honestly these comments have brought me so much courage and hope thank you all x

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I went through something similar. He wasnt on the birth certificate either. I remember feeling so much rage towards my ex when i fed my baby every 2 hours, waking up at 3 am to feed, change poop diapers and could only settle for an hour…. Then I found myself awake again. It was exhausting taking care of a newborn by myself. Meanwhile he didnt give a fuck, went out to party, didnt pay support, etc. He did whatever he want and told me im a bad mom just because i got upset with him for not caring. He even made claims that baby isnt his just so he could avoid responsibility. I thought i already hated him but i hated him even more each day. When my son turned 1, i took him to court for child support. Now he wants to act right. But i moved on already. It gets better, love. Once in awhile i still feel that rage deep inside my heart but the love for my son calms me down. You will get your blessings soon and his life will turn into shit

Take time to find yourself. Everything will fall into place!!

Girl, don't find you a new man. Most men are the same. You don't need another child. What you need to do, is let your freak flag fly (carefully). Meet other people. Whether to socialize or take your frustrations out. But you have to get out there. It's the only way you'll move on. You won't think about trash anymore

I agree with the above sentiments. I don’t refer to mine as BD but as a sperm donor, and I treat him accordingly. Blocked for six months, no contact and my focus is myself and my daughter so I can be the best woman and mother I can be. He was a hindrance and added little to my daughter's well-being, so I stood on business! His treatment of my daughter was the only thing I needed to get over him. I’ll be damned to put a man over my daughter, especially one I am not married to! Only so many times can someone disrespect you and show you that they do not care! 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Nikky my BD has been blocked for six months too, it’s been the most peaceful period i’ve ever experienced. He has to use his mom’s phone to text me or he texts my dad if its really that important. He did nothing for my son when i had my line open but he sure love to argue when i would get upset about him caring so little about baby. Now he acts right after no contact but im tooo far over it. I cant love someone that doesnt love my baby

Honestly this post has shown me that women can be such strong and brave people when we set our minds to it x