How do you discipline your children?

I want to know all ages since mine is little and I will likely need ideas in the future. My child is 7. When I was younger, I was disciplined with a belt, hand, switch, whatever was available. I don’t want to whoop my child, but I have before, not super bad but its always bad to a child. And I didn’t feel good about it, it also never seemed to work. My child would go right back to doing the things they got in trouble for. I basically traumatized the both of us for nothing because it didn’t benefit their behavior and made me feel like a bad parent. So I’ve tried making them do wall sits. Not too long, ten minutes. But then I was told not to do that by my mom. I asked her what I should do to discipline them and she said to let her think on it. Taking away toys or tv time won’t do anything because my child doesn’t have a huge enough attachment to those things for it to matter. I would probably have to take that stuff away for a month or two for it to do anything and I can’t do that for everything they do wrong because at some point, they’ll just not care at all. Maybe like “Hey, I won’t be watching tv for three months anyway, why not do this bad thing?” Also, my child doesn’t have a great concept of time, so saying “No tv for a month.” won’t even work as a threat. What do you all do as discipline? Or what are some techniques I can use to better my parenting so that my child doesn’t need discipline? They aren’t super bad, but I don’t want things to get worse as they age.

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We’ve utilized many methods. Including time outs, spankings, taking things away, groundings and physical labor (extra chores)

@SquishyMommy1 Can you explain groundings for me? Its not really something that was part of my growing up, none of the other kids spoke of it. From my understanding, its just not going outside to play, but I don’t allow my child outside to play by themselves like I used to be able to. As far as chores, I haven’t been using them as discipline because I don’t want my child to grow up hating them, but I will implement it for a few months to see if it helps

We didn’t do grounding until they were older. They are grounded to their rooms. They can read, listen to music, draw. Whatever they want. In their rooms. They go to school. They come home and are grounded to their rooms. No electronics or TV.

Absolutely love this account & her explanations (: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DGSYd5Ipkkf/?igsh=NnQ3bWg1Y3JiaTBj

@SquishyMommy1 You aren’t scared that them being confined to their rooms will make them hate being in there? I’ve read that that’s a possibility. My child already doesn’t spend much time in their room, but I don’t want them to not be in it because they see it as punishment. Maybe I’m just misinformed, maybe the freedom to choose to be in there makes the difference… I’m not sure

@Parker 又 Thank you!

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Nope. I’m sure not. I have mainly adult/older teen kids at this point.

I have a toddler but time outs worked for me as a kid my mom only ever had to do it once and I cried so much I never spray painted anything again 😭 I was 8 and spray painted our outside wall because I thought it needed to be pretty lol I do timeouts right now. 1 minute per age. She goes in her chair for a minute (till the timer goes off in a minute) and I explain to her why she is in timeout. I sit with her and let her also calm down and talk her through it if she’s having alot of emotions. After the minute she resets and is fine again and we hug. It’s actually prevented a lot of tantrums and has been helping her take a moment to practice breathing with me. Again I know I have a toddler but felt it was something neat to share to take into consideration!

@🩷 Patience 🩷 That’s still a very good idea. I may have to tweak it a bit, but I think it would be beneficial to older kids as well. I’m going to add it to my list!

I do what I call time-in. So I take my child (I’ve never had to discipline my first because I look at her sternly and she stops whatever she’s doing) so this is just for my second, I take him to a quiet boring spot- usually the bottom of the stairs and we sit there for 2 minutes and then I tell him that he’s sat there because he hit his sister/threw a toy, and then I say ‘do you think you should apologise?’ And he usually runs to say sorry or says sorry to me. He gets 1 warning before he goes into time in

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