Dealing with “oh is that your granddaughter” comments
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I had my daughter when I was 41, and now I am 44. I’ve never had any of these. I think sometimes need to change the clothes style or take care of ourselves? But I’m pretty sure that you look younger and please don’t listen to those people. 🌷🌷
I am 44 with a 4 year old and 2.5 year old. I have only run into this once at a playground with a really young mom. She was probably 18. So, in fairness to her, her mom could be younger than me. I have never had anyone older say anything just based off of my appearance. But, I have had people make insensitive comments in front of me about having kids later in life.
I don't know your sense of humor obviously but I saw the peanut notification on my phone as I was scrolling this article about a 100 year old tortoise who just became a mom 🤣 she must get the same comment a lot. https://abc7.com/post/philadelphia-zoos-oldest-resident-becomes-1st-time-parent-welcomes-4-baby-tortoises/16139520/?fbclid=IwY2xjawJh5DlleHRuA2FlbQIxMQABHp2MkGTyaCJL2Qb4aU3ktDXDMEqbuAUKr4GBiLRVyCFi07d0xPAKOn5DXjZq_aem_AC6hzLUS_MaU_0kxAk1UNQ
My parents had me when they were 40 and 41, and apparently this happened often. I’m 41 and pregnant, so we’ll see if it happens to me. I think it’s exactly what you said about who is around you - in Brazil I have friends my age who have grandchildren already.
@Kristine I'm 10 years older than my sister and people always thought I was her mom and my mom was my older sister lol.
To OP- that sucks. But as you live where the culture has them young, then grandmas in their 40s isn't uncommon. People forget that we have a pretty large window of when we can have babies. Although I have yet to meet any grandparent in their 40s in my circles whereas I do meet more having kids still.
After a few deep breaths, I just correct them. I'll be 45 in July and my daughter is 3 today. I don't get grandma often because I still look good but wait for it. 👀🤦🏾♀️🫣
I haven't had any such comments yet (43 with a 7 months old) but where we live there are lots of older mums and apparently average age for first child in the borough is 35. If I had that I'd probably just very sweetly with a smile ask 'What makes you think this is my grandchild?' Along those lines, and then enjoy their embarrassment. I don't understand why should we older mums feel bad about having kids later in life. Just because you are young it doesn't mean you'll be around longer nor it means automatically that you'll be an awesome mum just because you have fewer wrinkles and less dodgy knees (making this up but you know what I mean).
That's terrible, sometimes people don't think before they speak. I'm sorry you had to deal with that
I had the first one in my late 30s. I had never been so insulted. No tip for that barista. But I did take an objective look at myself afterwards and update my under eye cream
This has made me really annoyed on your behalf! How rude. I just don't know why people would even ask that question due to the potential for offence. (You know, in the same way that you wouldn't ask someone if they're pregnant unless you're sure!) I'm extra defensive because I'm pregnant for the first time at 37 and already been referred to multiple times as an older mum. I know people generally mean well but some stuff just doesn't need saying!
My mum had me at 40 and I used to get comments about my gran! I swore I would have kids before I was 30. Wasted a long time on the wrong man without realising it. Found my now husband at 37 and had my own kids at 40 and 43. This is what life thought was right for me! I’m waiting for the gran comments but I’m now not bothered. I just don’t want my kids to feel that m too old every one else can bog off
Thankfully not yet, my youngest are 2 and 6mths however my older kids have often been mistaken for their parents (19, 22 and 24) 🤣 I’m 44 this year.