Any ideas?

You’re punishing your daughter for behaviour she can’t control - so yeah I think it’s a bit wrong taking her party etc away! School need to be working with her to manage the adhd Rest breaks Movement breaks Sensory circuits Sensory toys for concentration Chunking of work One instruction at a time Meaningful movement tasks Outside learning They’re not meeting her needs

Hitting is never ok… but the jumping around is normal for adhd. Thats behavior we can’t change because it’s a part of our disability. Does she have access to figet toys? And yeah no i would not take away things cuz that teaches the kids on a subconscious level that your love is conditional. She doesn’t need to be punished she needs to be taught how to regulate her feelings. Edited to add does she have an IEP or a 504?

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I would not take birthday presents away. My daughter has severe ADHD and I learned that they cannot control it. You might want to consider providing her with the extra help she needs. That could mean putting her on meds or even having a special accommodation arranged for her at school. Often they act one way at home And a different way at school because of the type of environment. Also, if the school “punished” her punishing her at home again is just going to make her think she is not doing good enough. She is 6 and it is a bit hard to explain as it is.

Don’t punch bad behaviour reward good behaviour so if she is good for the whole week she can either have her favourite takeaway or a treat from the shop like a tub of ice cream a small toy or if like my daughter she would choose a jar of pickles

Punishing won’t help even tho that’s what you would naturally do to a child miss behaving but these things cannot be helped the school need to put strategies in place and movement breaks to help stop these behaviours I have a adhd and a child with autism you can message me if you would like some help or some things I do I could share x

I would HIGHLY recommend listening to HOW NOT TO MURDER YOUR ADHD CHILD audiobook on amazon. She had very practical examples of what to do for adhd kids in many situations. I'm adhd myself and speak from experience, echoing what the book says, Punishment doesn't change the behaviour. Rewards does. Please, please listen to the book to understand more. And how exactly to go about managing thus in the best way possible.

thank you for all of the comments ^^ I'm greatful for all the feedbacks. I feel like I'm failing as a mom that now know that I been doing wrong too, I was just told that I shouldn't rewards my kids when they arent listening, tantrums, bad behavior, when I gave in or I tell my kids I will give you one more chance to listen, calm voice and calm body before I take away their stuff. when I get upset I raise my voice at my kids then I take a deep breath and talk to my kids calm voice and I apologize to them I'm sorry for yelling I don't like how your not listening and not being have

@anamaria you’re not failing! Parenting is HARD Parenting a child with additional needs is even harder! You’ve got this

@Amy I told my daughter teacher and principal about her ADHD told me shes breaking the school rules and can hurt someone

@Lyss yes she have her foam as for her figet toys. I been working with her of remind her to control her emotions by telling her that I say when you get older you need to calm down, think before getting into trouble I told her kids can go into jail to, I really don't want to lose her, what ways what can I say to her in other words to say to her besides warning her stop getting into trouble. Yes she have IEP and what's 504?

@Veronica I understand thank you. I been waiting on her new insurance card to get in because I just renewed my kids insurance. I'm going to look into ABA therapy enrollment for her they help with disability kids. I just feel since she had her haircut her behavior been getting worse and her teacher is targeting only her and my daughter tells me her teacher only yells at the other kids but then tells me she gets in trouble more by her teacher talking to me on my phone and then I talked to the principal, her teacher told me yesterday she would have a second referral. Any ideas what else ways that I can say in other words about my daughter behavior?

@Lizzie those are good ideas thank you ^^ what other ideas can I do if she is good when I do rewards her but then she acts up after later on when she have the reward

@Hails thank you ^ I will do reach out to you

@Ghitta thank you for letting me know I will look into this, how much is it?

@Amy thank you appreciate it^^ 🤗❤️ I need to work on more talking more positive words in my mind

@anamaria How Not to Murder Your ADHD Kid: Instead Learn How to Be Your Child's Own ADHD Coach https://amzn.eu/d/9iG0QtA My amazon is currently showing me LIMITED OFFER offer 0.99p but not sure if you can see it too. Otherwise £10 for the audiobook. She is brilliant! I've learned so much from her!!

She also has the book spesific for adhd and school teachers and how they can best help the kids.

@anamaria a 504 plan is similar to an IEP but it focuses on behavior versus education. So the IEP gives accommodations for learning disabilities such as working in small groups and extra help with reading, writing, math and wherever they are behind at academics. While a 504 plan focuses on behavior. My daughter has just a 504 plan, with hers they are supposed to give her extra breaks when she needs them, this could look different at different schools, the school she was at in kindergarten she had a staff member that took her for a walk and allowed her to de stimulate. The school is at now (we moved towns) doesn't do the walks but she has an area she can go to when she feels overstimulated. They also give her a visual of her schedule and give her like a count down like there are 5 more minutes til change in activities, she is also allowed to have a chewy toy for her stem chewing. These accommodations would be focused on what your child needs behavior wise.

As far as birthday party and gifts I wouldn't take those things away. I think maybe instead of focusing on a punishment for school behavior try talking to your child and asking them what they feel they need to help them. More than likely the "lots of energy" is paired with being over or under stimulation. Look up the definitions of being over stimulated and under stimulated and go over it with your child so they can understand the meaning and once you can understand what they are feeling in the moment it will make it easier to know what they need. Teach them the terms they need that can help them communicate what they need. That's what I have been working with my ADHD 6 year old. She has taught me so much on what she needs because she is the only one who knows what she feels and needs. And she is my 4th child and I am still learning new things as a parent. I've been a mom for almost 23 years now and I can tell you this every child is different and they will all test you and teach you things.

@Ghitta thank you for letting me know I will look into that

@Kristen thank you for explaining and breaking it down I will talk to the school about this

@Kristen thank you, I understand ^ I will look into more reading about over and under stimulated and more into the ADHD how to calm

@anamaria just remember that every child is different and what works one may not work for another. I have found that what has helped the most is helping my daughter understand as much as she can what is going on with her. The more she understands the more we can find coping mechanisms that work for her. :)

@Kristen 100% agree with communication both me and my daughter have adhd an are needs are so different we both communicate what we both need

@Lizzie when I ask my 6 yr old daughter how can I help her stay out of trouble, what causes you act like that behavior and why of that behavior? She only tells me and yells at me I don't know is her answer and she tells me oh you already know what happened at school

@anamaria she might not know yet because she doesn't understand exactly how she is feeling yet. Maybe try instead of asking hey why she acts a certain way see if she can explain to you how she is feeling. She also might not understand the feeling or have the right words. Make sure you create a safe space to communicate. My daughter will bottle up if she thinks she's going to be in trouble and I always have to make sure she understands she's not in trouble and I just need her help to understand what is going on with her so that I can help her find ways to help with how she is feeling. I personally try to explain my feelings to her so she can have a better understanding of how to share her feelings.

@Kristen thank you ^ I love this all support from each and I'm grateful for everyone response back

Second 504 plan! My son is 12 and has one. It’s been explained to me that 504 is more for emotional issues and IEP is for academic issues. My best advice is advocate for your child! You know them best. Don’t let the school walk all over you. Educate them and stand firm on what your child needs. There’s disruption in the class due to their special needs? What can the school do to mitigate that? My son is 12 - I can’t tell you how many calls I’ve gotten from the school, how many times I’ve broken down and almost pulled him out completely. Don’t give up and advocate, advocate, advocate! We have had a BHT with my son for 20 hours a week for 2+ years and it has been a game changer.