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How do you know when it’s time to leave
My husband isn’t a bad guy, never hurt me or my children or anything I just want to get that out there now! But I just feel so unhappy and genuinely feel I’d be happier alone, and for the children we’d be better apart.
I feel we argue 24/7 and everything turned in to an argument, it’s so tit for tat on everything we do. We hardly touch each other. We parent different now and it’s becoming obvious in our nearly 2 year old who is our oldest.
We have 2 small children and I suffered with PND (after our 1st but nothing was done about it because I fell pregnant with my 2nd at 16 weeks pp) so suffered greatly with out 2nd and I do feel that is a massive reason and it’s definitely not helped, most likely being one of the biggest factors in our fights so I care a lot of guilt!
We had a fight recently and I mentioned separating and he said we’re married I’m not walking away, and yes I get you don’t give up easily but I don’t know what to do I can’t shift the feeling it’s over 😭
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You're in the war zone right now going kids is tough I thought my partner and I were as solid as any couple was going to be, our relationship has been tested to it's limit over the last 7 years (4 kids 7 and under) do you WANT to work at it? If you're already checked out it's not going to work if you have the desire to see it through and make it work you need to put in the serious work that may be required, do you get much alone time as a couple? Much support? You need to open communication right up air any and all the issues, start dating each other again be people outside of parents
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Sorry you are having a hard time 💗 Have you tried counselling/therapy? Sometimes talking to a neutral third party can help. You could go separately and/or together. I hope you have a support network to help with childcare and chores so that you get a break physically as well as mentally. Are you doing anything for yourself? Like postnatal massage or getting your hair/nails done or taking yourself out for coffee/lunch?