Am I being dramatic? ✨Long post sorry✨
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@Danae Handley thank you for commenting 🩷 my concern is that if we do go along they’ll still expect us to stay for a while/bbq etc. My partners uncle is coming down from Blackpool and his sister from Wales (we’re in Devon) so it’s that extra pressure of ‘well we won’t be able to see her often so let us have a cuddle’.
I totally get that! I would probably just do a FaceTime/video call. Maybe your partner goes but you stay home. I had to learn how to stick to our boundaries as new parents. It’s so hard when family is involved! You want to please people but you also want to keep your new baby safe. Her health in these first 60 days is more important than any social gathering. You can do this mama! Stating that it’s a combination of you are very much still recovering and getting the hang of being a new mom while also having this very new baby is too much to make it this time is okay!
It sounds like the only one being dramatic here is his sister! I wouldn’t have been comfortable going to a family gathering that soon. Like Danae said her health is more important and you have to be the one that advocates for her. So as bad as you might feel saying no you’d feel way worse if she got sick after it. Don’t be bullied into something you don’t want to do. You’re finding your feet and it’s tough enough as it is. His sister should know better. Just say to them you’re not feeling up to it and it’s an excuse to have another family gathering in a few months when you’re feeling more settled. Enjoy that newborn bubble and don’t feel guilty about it xx
This would give me so much anxiety. His sister sounds so self centred!! I’m sorry
Oh god no .. you need to be at home with your feet up recovering and caring for your baby. People need to come to you but for very short visits only ..
Thank you lovelies🩷 Feeling a lot calmer this morning and going to have to put my foot down more and what I want for me and baby! My SIL has previously and will continue to cause issues and drama and make it all about her!🙃 It’s just the sort of person she is.
im sure if you weren’t in your parents home when you gave birth, you would have also made them wait. its completely unreasonable from the inlaws and your partner to expect this especially when you’ve been clear about needing time to heal. he should be supportive of you regardless of how his family feels.
Not dramatic at all! You have litterally just given birth and your baby doesn't have a great immune system yet. Stand your ground and do what makes you comfortable. They have all the time to meet her in future. I live quite far from my family so my mother is the only person from my side who's met my son and he's nearly 11 weeks old. At the end of the day, she's your baby and what you and your partner says goes. Hopefully your partners understands soon and doesn't pressure you into doing something that you're not comfortable with
Not dramatic at all! It’s completely reasonable that you want to protect your newborn from germs. It’s so important to keep them healthy as they have no immune system. You could say you’d only be there a very short while and baby will be staying with you/partner not passed around.