Doesn't get exhausting???

is it just me of staying constantly on a routine with yourself, partner and kids gets drained exhausting??? What ideas to stay top of a routine without feeling tired drained doing the same repeats of the routine? Even when my kids on their routine I have to constantly ask behind them did you brush your teeth? Did you do this and that? so on and so on then my kids yell at me I know when I tell them about their routine, my brother told me I hovered my kids too much about their routine, I was told my kids won't be independent if I keep telling and reminding my kids about the routines. I said I just don't want to lose my kids and end up like my sister she loss her kid of her kid had bad hygiene then my brother told me I wouldn't lose them from that because I'm constantly telling them what to do, then there's time I give them their space doing their routine on their own then my kids tell me they forgot to brush their teeth or this and that