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@Emma thank you! She’s 10 months 😢 x
Its so hard, especially as she probably doesn't fully understand. It might take a few weeks/months but I would just keep being persistent and asking if nursery csn update you with how she is after drop off once you're gone as if shes fine the rest of the day that might help you know she does settle. Xx
When did you start nursery? 10m is peak separation anxiety usually. My lo started nursery at 13 months and is still struggling with drop offs and only just now starting to relax a bit there, after a month. I try to keep it consistent, give him a kiss, say “bye bye I’ll pick you up later!” As happily as possible and walk away. Routine will eventually help them know what to expect and feel like it’s just another normal day. Try not to be upset because they sense it, but I know it’s so hard. I’ve had a super tough time with it. What helps a bit is sending dad to do the drop off if possible. LO still cries but a little less, and it saves me the heartache. Didn’t occur to me till last week that I don’t have to do all the drop offs myself
My LO started going nursery exactly at 10 months and she also cried on every drop and even pick up for almost a month but then got settled and happily goes there. She is going 5 days a week so i think that helps to keep that momentum
My daughter is one at the end of the month, she started nursery 3 weeks ago. No tears whatsoever on the first day but I don’t think she actually saw us leave but she cries/ whinges everyday as she’s passed to someone else. The first few times I hovered outside the door and realised she stopped within a minute once she was distracted so now I’m confident in leaving her knowing she’s fine. It just takes them time to build up that relationship with their key worker and nursery staff. They’ll soon get there 😊
How old is she and how long has she been going? My 2.5 year old started going in November when she was 2, and it took her 4 weeks to settle going 1 day a week. I would just keep talking about nursery, even if you think she doesn't understand. Talk about who she will see and how much fun she will have and then when you do pick up say that you came back and did she have fun? My nursery would always send a message to say that she was calm and playing about 5 minutes later but leaving was hard. Now she sometimes has a wobble day, if shes tired or getting over a sickness. But otherwise she lives it. Unfortunately one of those things that takes time. X