Need honest advice and opinions

It's my birthday, My fiance told me for the last month he would make sure I had the best birthday because last year he didn't even get me a card off our kids. Fast forward to this morning, he goes to work (he told me he booked it off) gave me a card that just said happy birthday (nothing else) off of him, (not the kids on it) hasn't planned a single thing and he's saying to make up for it all he will do the cleaning when he gets home. I can't move past this. For my birthday... He's gonna clean as if it's not his house and responsibility to do that every day anyways... I mean he doesn't do it any other day. I told him all I wanted was for us to get up slightly earlier to have as much time together today since he was off work. He woke up 15 minutes before he had to leave, didn't do any cleaning last night, left me to do everything and literally nothing for my birthday, fucking hell he didn't even write in the card. Yet for his birthday I spent a lot of money on his gaming set up he was building. So the last 3 years, he's flaked on two of my birthday and texted his ex on one of them. I just don't see how I can move past the lack of effort on a day he built up for months. Just to clarify I didn't expect much, just a bit of effort even if we just took the kids out on a lovely walk, had a movie night. Anything.