Does anyone else get sad when they think about their babies preferring dad when they get older?

I've done the majority of child rearing since my son (15mo) was born. I do ALL of the night time feedings, 99% of the diaper changes/baths/meal times, etc. I am a stay at home mom and wake up with my son every single morning while my husband sleeps in past noon or leaves for work. My husband stays up until ungodly hours playing games and hardly ever interacts with our son. I clean everything and husband barely takes out the trash even though that is his only chore. My husband leaves trash on our bedroom floor and our bedroom is a literal wreck, I haven't slept in there for a year. I try to push for family time but husband calls that "forced interaction" and that I will make our son hate his dad... When my son gets older, I have a feeling my husband will magically want to play and interact with our son because it will all of a sudden be fun for him (hubby). Then, i will be chopped liver. I know moms are always seen as no fun and kids only want to play with dad. This makes me sad because I have done EVERYTHING for my son and my son will only care to hang out with his dad who didn't even bother to spend time with him as an infant. Has anyone else been through this situation?

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I Think it’s normal and understandable for children & teenagers to not appreciate all the effort mums put in from day 1. But as they grow up they will see who truly cares for them. I think as long as your children are happy and healthy then taking things like this on the chin (them preferring one parent) is part of parent hood. But it won’t last forever & all you can do it be the best mum you can be and know you’ve done your best by them

@Abi Thank you 😊 I definitely wish I would have shown more appreciation to my mom when I was younger, especially at the teenager stage. I've told my mom that and she told me not to feel bad because I was a child and she loves me very much. I definitely need to see that my son eventually preferring to play with dad isn't personal, just natural. Maybe it's part of me that doesn't want my husband to receive recognition or reap any benefits of any work he didn't do. I think it is just built up resentment.

I feel like they change all the time. Our son is all about dad some days and then swaps and is all about mum lol we just have fun with it and do things as a family rather apart so he continues having bonds with both parents. I find with our son is dad is the fun cool play with (which I love watching) it’s beautful when they start bonding with dads and when he wants mummy its usually for cuddles/naps eating etc

@Nire85 How would you go about prioritizing family time with a husband who refuses to do so? I want to spend time with husband and our son but husband would rather watch YouTube or play video games. In the post, I've stated that whenever I invite hubby to join playtime he calls it forced interaction. He doesn't really want to play with our son until he is older.

I’m sorry to hear that and I wouldn’t know what that feels like for you as my hubby is so hands on and wants to be with he’s son every chance he gets. We’re always doing family time. Like a lot. If I was in your position I would probably rage at my hubby lol I mean video games really…? He’s missing out on so much. What does he say when you address this to him?

@Nire85 he essentially says him spending time with our son doesn't matter because our son is too young to understand.

This is the most they’re developing and of course they remember. Mum and dad playing and interacting is so important. Video games? I’d be really firm with my husband if that were me and explain that it makes you feel a certain way when he doesn’t want family time and the importance of play time is “bond child” not dad go away and leave me to play a game

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