What should I do?
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It sounds like he’s hiding something. For some reason he doesn’t have the money and is in avoidance mode of dealing with the issue. I’d be having a real serious talk about that and definitely not tolerate being palmed off with ‘I will do it later’. Financial stress is not something to be taken lightly as the impact on mental health can be extreme (I know from experience)
@Tasnim He moved into mine so never bothered changing/adding him to the bills tbh
@Jess Im gonna try talk to him tonight again, but every time I tell him that financial stress is getting to me, he says “why you stressing? Youll get the money” but then the next day will say hes struggling to make money
I’d sit down and have a talk with him about it. Things can’t continue this way. The only solutions I can think of are these: if you’re married and if he doesn’t have a gambling problem or spending problem I’d get a joint account and put all the bills in both our names. Paychecks come to the joint account and then each person’s discretionary amount can be transferred to their individual account. This way you’re not asking for money for bills it’s already there. If this is not an option, I’d put some of the bills in his name and some in mine that way if I need to pay anything and he doesn’t send his share I’d pay the ones in my name first to avoid going into debt and ruining my credit score. He’s likely relaxed because nothing is in his name so he’s not on the hook for anything
How are the bills normally paid? I would set up a joint account asap and the first of every month you put in the same amount. Our salaries and accounts are separate but every month we put in £1750 each to cover mortgage and bills. You don’t need the stress of money right now but equally he needs to support you when you have no income. My husband covered my £1750 for 6mths while I wasn’t paid
Why are all of the bills in only your name? Might be worth putting it in his name