AITA for being upset?

So my partner told me a few weeks ago that he didn't think we could afford to go to the Easter Show (big event where we live). I was bummed but understood. My friend told me last week that she was given 2 free tickets. Her, my bestie, my sister and I discussed possibly going and sharing the cost since one of us would use a free ticket. I spoke to my partner to invite him but also to see if it was financially possible for us. I'm a SAHM at the moment. Anyway, he said it was OK and he was interested in coming. Skip to today, and we are buying tickets. He is frustrated the whole time. I asked if he was OK, and he said, "tired and stressed." I asked why he was stressed, and he snapped at me that he was stressed about money and about spending the day with my sister. He hates her. He was packing up to go to bed, when he went into our room and "slammed" the door (it couldn't slam), then he let our cat outside and I heard him snap at her. He doesn't like her either. I'm really upset.

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Why are you with someone that hates your blood sister, your pet who is family and evidently isn’t very interested in seeing you smile, while throwing his toys out the pram? I promise I’m asking in the least judgemental tone but he needs to kind of grow up x

@Olivia, he didn't originally hate her. They got on really well. Then she broke our trust. We talked, she apologised, and I moved on, but he couldn't, and then small things since then have added up to cause him to hate her. He didn't hate our cat at first either, but he has sleep issues, and she comes in and out of a night, and it irritates him. Irritates me, too, but not to the same extent. I just wish he'd been honest with me before we bought the tickets. I'm now dreading the show instead of being excited.

It’s a tough one when your other half holds onto things. Maybe he needs some counselling on it because what happens if you ever do something that breaks trust with him or irritates him and then he can’t ever get over it? :( I know you love him but just make sure you go and enjoy yourself, you’re not responsible for his emotions and you deserve the fun 💜

I think he agreed to get the tickets because he wanted to make you happy and see you smile. But afterward, he started feeling guilty about spending the money, and even upset for being put in that position. I do understand his feelings, but I don't think it's okay. He should have thought it through before saying yes—it’s not fair of him to make you feel bad about it now. I’d talk to him once he’s had a chance to cool down and try to figure out a better way to handle things like this in the future.

@Meis, I did think about that possibility. My sister was in hospital 2 days after we talked until today, so I also feel like he thought she wouldn't be coming and is now stressed that she is. I just wish he talked to me rather than snap. I'll talk to him tomorrow.

I think it sounds like he has a lot on his plate too and is taking it out on you and the cat! Maybe try think about what he’s upset about and then speak to him about it all

Wow. So, who does he like?

@Lauren, I think I already know. It's a lot of things really that we are both equally at fault for and not at fault at all. It's our living situation, it's the fact he has to spend the day with my sister, who he hates. Etc there is a lot. I empathise and sympathise with him.

@Niki, his family, his friends, all but 1 of my friends (though he's ok with that friend), the rest of my family, etc His feelings are valid.

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