Toddler Behaviour Struggles
Hi all,
Is anyone else struggling to keep their composure with their toddler?
My toddler is really triggering me with their behaviour.
Throwing, hitting, demanding and screaming, putting their hands and things in places they should not be. Doesn’t listen. Just normal toddler behaviour. I find it really really gets to me.
I find it extremely hard to keep my composure and usually end up snapping really badly practically at least once a day. I end up screaming at my toddler. I have smacked in the past and it occasionally happens. I am trying to work on myself daily but being a single parent does not help.
I feel so ashamed and guilty. This is not the way I want to be with my children.
I do not want them to feel scared and anxious but at times I just can’t help it. I find it hard to step away from situations. My fuse has become very short.
I know the problem lies with me. I just don’t understand why I have become this way.
Please have any of you experienced the same or have any tips that could help me be a better person? Anything that you find works with your toddler to get them to calm down/ unload their emotions in a positive way?
For the record I do have a baby who is over 8 months old too.
Please tell me that I am not the only one.
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I’m 36weeks pregnant and struggling with my almost 3yr old, so understand x
My almost three year old had started with bad tantrums too and it gets to me so much. Its usually when shes tired and not getting her own way. I now pick my battles in terms of saying no. If its just inconvenient to me but she really wants to do something and its safe, I'll let her do it. If its something she can't do i just let her cry it out, sit at her level, agree with what she's saying and no ready to hug her when she's ready. I also just read about a new technique where you start telling them everything you love about them, whilst they're mid tantrum. I'm going to try that one x
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I’m sorry I have no advice, but I just wanted to say you’re not alone. I am seriously struggling with our almost 3 year old at the moment and find I’m losing my temper far more than I ever thought I would. I’ve always tried to practice the “parent like everybody’s watching” philosophy but some days it’s just bloody hard. The tantrums at the moment are ridiculous. I do find that sometimes it helps to leave the room (if it’s safe) and just have a minute to compose myself and remember that if I’m struggling with my emotions when I’m a fully grown woman, then I’ve got to understand how hard it is for her to cope with her’s when she’s not even been on the earth for 3 years. Some days that works, other days it doesn’t! 😂 But you’re not alone. And the fact that you care enough about what’s happening to even reach out just shows that you’re a good mum who is doing the very best she can. “This time shall pass” 🤞🤞 xx