I feel so bad
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Maybe get your partner to take holiday?and reach out to family and freinds anyone you trust enough to babysit for a weekend a grandparent?
Sorry you're going through this. I second the above comments but also maybe discuss how you feel with a HV if not the GP, I've found them to be generally alot more understanding of the difficulties that come with parenthood as well as not as rushed. Really hope you're ok very soon. Happy to talk privately too to maybe try support you emotionally and offer advice with the main things you're finding most difficult. I felt like this at times and it was alot due to sleep deprivation. No judgement xx
Where do you live? There are various ways you could get some support in the uk
@Paige I unfortunately have reached out multiple times to my doctor, my MH nurse and all the midwife’s and HV over the 3 weeks. The doctor and nurse suggested I wait until 6 weeks and see if I have an improvement and the HV referred to me to the perinatal team but I’m yet to hear back since last week. I have asked for medication but they said no, I have told everyone from my partner, MIL, mum, family members but everyone is just like Aww you’re getting better soon my love 🙂 I need actual help x
@Katya Scotland I’ve asked for help multiple times from doctors and HV and the MH nurse x
@Maisy he’s self employed and just can’t afford the time off unfortunately. My MIL isn’t comfortable looking after a baby just yet and I only have my MIL as in family close by that’s it x
Have you checked if there a home start hub near you? https://www.home-start.org.uk/home-start-in-scotland x
Maybe finding a baby group just to rant find some mum freinds will help I say this as I’m in the newborn trenches so I’m not much help lol🤣😭
Finding other parents with babies/kids of similar age can definitely help, I’ve seen mums team up so one comes over and watches the kids while the other one works/cooks/sleeps whatever is needed. Then they switch another day
Did you get help the first time round? I’d go back to your drs and tell them you need medication as you can’t cope, no one’s going to take your children off you ppd is more common than mums realise. If I lived closer I’d honestly come round and help you out but hopefully there’s someone on here who will club together and help you out physically xxx
I really think you should reach out for help, nobody will take your children from you. You clearly love them and aren’t a danger to them, you are just having a tough time which is very normal and happens to lots of women. It could be really helpful to speak to your partner and let him know how you’re feeling and what support you need. Or maybe another family member or friend. It could also be really helpful to speak to your GP. It might be good to consider medication as it has really helped me to rationalise things in difficult moments and not to spiral into despair. I’m really happy to talk if you wanted to drop me a message. I felt very similar to you a few weeks ago x